i don’t wanna ovfur share so much abt this situation, but i’m gonna compile everything from today and delete those mini update posts:
tldr: i embarrassed my mom and she’s been giving us the silent treatment for about a week and a half. she took out the dishes from the sink then left the house (cue confused and anxious teens). when i woke up from a nap, she was standing at my bed with my siblings and told us she just wants some respect. i can understand that, but she said 2 things that worried me:
1) she’s talking to us for our dad’s sake. if he gets hurt it’s our fault.
2) she didn’t want to talk to us sooner bc she was worried she’d take all our things and toss us out.
i’m happy she’s talking to us again but i’m still a little nervous, u kno? but idk if i’m overreacting again
i got mad at my mom about a week and a half ago. i got in her personal space, overreacted, and humiliated her at a costco. i realized how bad it was and apologized the same day. she stopped talking to us for a week and a half. my mom and dad were both losing sleep over the bad relationship between my mom and my siblings.
today, she came upstairs for the first time since then and took all of the dishes from the sink away. she put them in the backyard but didn’t tell us (we only had good clean spoon left, but we did have lots of bowls so woohoo!) the garage opened and she was gone for the day.
i was kinda shaky, but my sister had us do chores to feel productive. i took a nap, but when i woke up my mom and my siblings were surrounding my bed. my mom started talking abt how she wants to be respected and i get that, but there’s 2 things that concerned me:
she said she was talking to us so that our dad wouldn’t worry. if he gets hurt she’s tried her best and it’s our fault
she was worried that if she talked to us any time sooner than she did, she would take all our things and kick us out
i’m really happy she’s talking to us again and she wants us to do better. we really couldn’t do much before. i kno we’re all peachy-keen right now but i’m kinda lookin forward to the time i have an ok job and can understand enough about homes to live on my own X)
tbh, even tho i kno it’s bad... i wouldn’t want to say it’s abuse bc there’s some reasoning behind it that i can understand. she was hurt by me and i do feel bad for that. i get how she needed some space and i’m not gonna get mad at that either. what i don’t like is how, without saying anything, she managed to make me nervous even when she’s not in the room.
