till death do us apart

everyone grows at different speeds. take your time and don’t compare yourself to others. you will become who you need to be.

all plants have different germination, some require specialty care, and others still take years before you can see progress, but we still marvel at forests and gardens all the same. 

you deserve to celebrate your victories, no matter how small they are

you deserve to be loved without having to hide the parts of yourself that you think are unlovable.

it still breaks my heart thinking about you

aaaaaah thank you yasmineeee ily ! also ateez realLLLY POPPED OFF like wow. AND DOUBLE KNOT OH MY GOD SKZ DID //THAT///

“Loneliness does not come from having no people around one, but from being unable to communicate the things that seem important to oneself, or from holding certain views which others find inadmissible.” - Carl Jung

Shoutout to all those kids who were praised and encouraged when they wanted to be marine biologists and surgeons and physicists and wanted to cure diseases or go into politics, only to meet radio silence when they decide to be writers or artists, to study human behavior and become therapists or actors. The softer pursuits are only softer because society says they are so, and you are important. You deserve to be heard, and encouraged, and praised, and I hope you are.

In my family on my mom's side, we receive praise for our achievements but they have to be big enough. We need to be on TV, have written a successful book and we are getting interviews, a famous painter, etc. On my dad's side if you don’t have an award or some tangible representation of your achievement then there’s silence. I legit was at the dinner table and asked my dad if he saw my evaluations from my professors and he was just like “yeah.” and then a conversation about how I need to find a paid internship come up. lol. 

I wonder how many gay people are actually transgender & dont know it because people thing being transgender is transitioning when it’s literally just not being cis.

like I had a friend tell me last night “all my life I wanted to be a girl. even to this day, like if someone told me I could transition & look like you or *insert another trans woman idk* I would do it in a heartbeat” and when I was like omg ur transgender he was surprised? like he was like wait just wanting to be a girl makes me transgender even if I dont do anything about it? and like its harder to pinpoint non binary people but if u have a desire be a different gender ur transgender. transitioning is a choice but being transgender is not.

“One of the symptoms of being a girl is wanting to be a girl.” Don’t remember where I heard that but the quote is my life.

Gender dysphoria is not a requirement to be transgender. If you are your happiest self as a gender that is not one you gained at birth then congratulations, you’re transgender.

If youre your happiest self as a gender that u weren’t assigned at birth, wouldnt that give you a disliking to your birth gender, therefore causing dysphoria? Like why would you transition if u didnt have dysphoria you’d have no reason to

I recently came to the realization that there are different types of dysphoria and most people just think it only applies to ur body so maybe thats it?

dysphoria =/= trans. this is an argument lots of people use to invalidate tons of trans people, and conflates our identities with inherent suffering, rather than characterising it as a euphoria when recognised as the gender you identify as.

yes also there’s gender euphoria which is what made me want to transition

this!!!!! I’ve had a trans girl say to me “I want to be a girl so I’m going on hormones.” and I was like “well I was a boy before them.” Also, in regards to dysphoria...as a trans person I don’t really experience body dysphoria much but when I am misgendered I experience it or some day it’ll be worse than others. Some trans people are kind of like “cool. this is me” until they go on hormones and are like “cool!!! this is me!!!!” for some of us!