#outdated beliefs

When I was young, it was commonplace to say that a primal woman's fantasy is to be raped. It was considered a core belief.

Men could not be gay because they were married, especially if they had children.

Women did not work outside the home. The only one of my mother's friends who worked was my French teacher.

Women were not funny. My desire to be a comic was because I had a "sick need to be funny".

It was okay to have sex with thirteen year old girls.

Of course a lot of this shit is still around, including the idea there are only two binary genders. But we were absolutely straitjacketed by these beliefs. Young folk have no idea how far we've come. And how far back MAGA wants to drag us.

Which Old Beliefs Are Haunting Your Present?

Ladies, gather round - your favorite truth-teller just dissected that viral video "Which of My Beliefs Are Outdated?" and darling, the cards hissed. Imagine your mind as a dusty attic filled with expired canned goods labeled "I'm not worthy" or "Love must hurt." Spoiler: they’ve been rotting since 2012. I decided to tackle this after three clients pulled The Tower card while crying over Zoom last Tuesday - coincidence? The universe thinks not. This isn’t a gentle pat on the head. It’s me handing you a spiritual flamethrower to burn those "good girl" ideologies and martyr complexes you mistook for personality traits. I prepared a reading that’s equal parts archeology and exorcism - we’re digging up those crusty convictions hiding behind your “I’m fine” smile. Expect shadow work served with a side of dark humor (because if we don’t laugh at our trauma, it wins). Whether you’re clinging to outdated relationship rules or career fears straight from 90s rom-coms - consider this your intervention. Bring wine. Skeletons need company.

New Post has been published on https://www.crownofcompassion.org/2018/09/12/your-protectors-cling-to-outdated-beliefs/

Your protectors cling to outdated beliefs

“Protectors want to avoid shame at all costs.  They want you to believe they’re your best bet for staying safe and strong.  Your protectors need to know that the Holy Spirit in you is more powerful than their habits and outdated beliefs to which they’ve clung — they can let your Spirit-led self take the lead.”- Alison Cook and Kimberly Miller

As Alison Cook and Kimberly Miller continue Chapter 7 of Boundaries for Your Soul, they discuss how to unburden an exile.  First, the authors underscore what possibly happens when you first pay attention to an exile.  Emotions flood your soul.  As a result, the temptation arises to give up on completing the hard work of addressing your past.

However, Alison and Kim note, once you’re present with your soul’s vulnerable parts, ask them not to overwhelm you.  Relieved that you’re taking the lead, they calm down.

Yet, your exile still may harbor fears about releasing the burden of painful beliefs and emotions.  Even after the exile gains your trust.  Thus, when confronted by change, exiles express five common fears:

The fear that no one will remember all the pain I’ve experienced.  Therefore, keep in mind that you can forgive, even though you may never forget the offense.  Also, your just God remembers as well.

The fear that I’m not worthy.  Resolve to learn from your mistakes.  As a different person and child of God, He helps you grow day by day.

The fear of abandonment.  People who truly love you accept you with your flaws.  Furthermore, God’s presence brings healing.

The fear of becoming well.  With great intention, embrace Jesus’ invitation to heal and grow.

The fear that my memory of a loved one will fade.  Creating a space in your heart for this grief allows you to still live your life.  In addition, the authors advise, create rituals to remember the on you love and continue to move forward.

Today’s question: What outdated beliefs do your protectors still cling to?  Please share.