#nonegativity

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welcome to my tumblr, i will post as much as i can but please no negativity! (it literally says it in my title dimwit) ! anyways, please no racism, ableism, sexism, or anything close to that. 

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We all have low points of our life but how do we deal with it?

1) Accept that you are sad: This is very often overlooked. You firstly should try accept that you feel upset or sad and rather than suppressing or getting rid of these emotions, embrace and let it out. Accept the fact that we all have to be sad at some points and let yourself feel low. This sounds very contradicting but let yourself be as sad as you can! The more you are sad at this point, the better. Don’t suppress your emotions might make you feel sad. Let it just flow in and out of you, almost like water. Let these emotions out in healthy ways: such as crying (if you cry, try cry as hard as you can and after a bit of time you’ll stop crying on your own....try it!!), drawing anything, ripping up paper, writing something (I do this one!) or anything that suits you really.

2) Don’t force yourself to be happy: This comes with the point of suppressing your emotions. Emotions come and go so let them come and go. If you feel happy, smile; if you feel sad, cry or vent to a friend, if you feel angry express it through healthy ways or try calm yourself down (honestly if you are angry it’s best to deal with it (deep breathes help) rather than fueling your anger).

3) Don’t take action based on your emotions: People usually tell you to act on your emotions but do not do that!!! Emotions chop and change quickly so relying on your emotions as a way to motivate you is not a good idea. Of course you can do things to make you feel good, but no one can be happy all the time. Try logically think what you need to do everyday, you can do this by listing the things you need to do or want to do when you feel neutral.

4) Take care of yourself/ healthy habits: Of course we all need to take care of ourselves. This comes under being logical, we all need to take care of yourself. This doesn’t need to be full on, maybe just a nice warm shower and eating something healthy once a day should be good enough. (Try not to put too many expectations on yourself as this can lead you to be stressed and end up not doing anything leading you into this downwards spiral of being unproductive).

5) Exercise: This isn’t something like workout for 2 hours everyday or go running for an hour. This is exercise when you feel a little low or fatigued. Fatigue can also be due lack of movement in the body and a little dopamine can’t hurt you! You don’t have to do intensive exercise, light exercise will do!

6) Meditation: This would be at a much later stage. Honestly meditation is very hard if you aren’t mentally stable as you just get intrusive thoughts and you can’t concentrate. Meditation is great, but if you have difficulty, maybe this isn’t for you yet!

7) Regular routine: This does not have to a full on schedule. This might just be what you want to complete through out the day. (Make sure this list is very small e.g.-: My tasks today are eating breakfast, take a shower, study one hour and talk to a friend). As you get used to this, it’ll help!

8) Therapy: Therapy is actually very helpful. Therapy is totally different from talking to a friend or family, and honestly feels a lot better! It might take a few tries to find a perfect therapist for you but I’m sure you’ll find one. If you cannot get access to a therapist, just refer to point one on how to vent healthily.

9) Small goals: I know I have been mentioning this through out but start small. You may not be satisfied with what you have or what you are working at but it’s definitely better than doing nothing!

I wrote this for whoever needs to hear this, meaning you must be going through something. If you’re reading this it means I must care about you a lot and I want to save you from yourself. Look, first off I want to say this, things happen for the better or for the worst, but in the end you have to accept that. Now I don’t know what you’re going through, maybe a relationship ended, you lost someone, or maybe your car broke down and you don’t have a way to get to that nice job opportunity, who knows, I’m not psychic. Listen, after everything that happened you still have to move forward. While you’re sitting there dwelling on what went wrong or you’re wondering how you could’ve done better, time is still moving forward and that thing that’s got you so worked up is already going to be yesterday’s history. I know it hurts and it sucks, but ask yourself, what did you learn from it? Did you get anything out of it? Is it going to effect what’s important? Will it linger inside you forever? Who knows, but you need to remember and focus more on what matters. If its one of those things where it changes your life forever, don’t let that affect you in a negative way. Negative things happen all the time and thats just life. I mean look at all the negative things of our human history. So much has happened and all we did as a species was accept,learn, and we moved on. Sure those events changed people lives forever and some changed for the bad. Don’t let bad things steer you away from all the good you’re capable of. Its up to you to evolve and be the best version of yourself. It won’t be easy, but you should give it your all. There are more obstacles ahead of you and you shouldn’t be intimidated by them because look how far you’ve come already. Don’t compare your life to others because its your story, not a race. Believe in yourself more. If you feel like you’re in a low point in your life cut that shit out because we all started at a low point in the first place. Everyone’s stories are different so why does it matter? Some people get envious and angry and want to ruin other’s lives and if you run into those types, treat them with love. Don’t give into the negativity because all that’s going to do is spread more negativity in the world. Be humble, enjoy life, do what makes you genuinely happy. If something bad happens, then shit, it already happened, you’re going to have to move on. At the end of the day, remember to walk forward with your head on your shoulders. The past is the past. The future, well, we all look forward to that, but as for the present, that’s where you build. Use all the tools and knowledge you’ve gained up to this point and remember you’re only human. There’s only so much you can do. So keep going. You’re doing great, believe in yourself and give yourself some more credit! If you fail, try again. We all fail sometimes and our failures are lessons. Nobody’s perfect, that’s why we must continue to move forward and be the best versions of ourselves. You got this. Stay strong, I promise everything is going to get better, so stay positive. Like I said earlier, this is your story and you’re the one with the pen writing it all down. Cherish everything you have now. You are unique and you’re perfectly fine the way you are. So keep going, I’ll support you from afar!

-Theo

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