Idk if you'd be able to help me, but for a while I've identified as NB, but lately I've begun to doubt myself. (I haven't medically transitioned) I'm not sure if my body is actually wrong to me. But I don't know if it's right for me. I don't know if I'm actually cis and just confused or actually NB. And I'm afraid that if it turns out that I was cis this whole time, I'll be seen as someone who hopped on a trend. Yet what if I go back to identifying as cis and regret it? How can I know who I am?
Okay, I’m glad you reached out. It’s nice to meet you! I’m Oscar, and I’ve been through the questioning you’re going through before I realized I was a trans man.Â
So let’s get down to business!Â
Nonbinary dysphoria is really messy, and can be nearly impossible to live with, because for the most part, there isn’t a catchall cure like transition. However, there are ways to make it a little less painful. Most Nonbinary people fall into one of three subtypes.Â
Agender: need for no sex characteristics at all, doesn’t want any genitalia or other sex characteristics, often mixed up with trauma symptoms, get checked for trauma if this is your dysphoria’s manifestation, because the symptoms have many similarities.
Nonbinary Classic: the need for “intersex” characteristics, such as ambiguous genitalia, often a flat chest, and a “midrange” height, voice, etc, usually feeling a desire for traits of the opposite sex, but without “going all the way.” This can often be an indicator of classic gender dysphoria, but isn’t always, and should be carefully treated to avoid “going too far,” and swinging into dysphoria from the “other side.”Â
Bigender Dysphoria: the need for both sets of sex characteristics, feeling dysphoria about lacking certain parts, but without feeling discomfort for the ones you have. Unfortunately, since the human body isn’t currently equipped to handle both sets, this is one kind of dysphoria without a cure.Â
It’s not known why these types manifest the way they do, and it’s difficult to get accurate studies done, thanks to a great number of people mistakenly identifying themselves as nonbinary when they are, in reality, binary trans or cis. However, if these apply to you, the chances that you are nonbinary are much higher than if they do not, although you should still get checked for trauma symptoms and body dysmorphia before seeking out transition. I hope this helps!Â












