#non-binary genders

Noneu/nonneu (or neunec): someone who is not neutrois at all in any way, shape, or form, but feels a strong connection to neutrality within their gender.

The model I’m using assumes the people the person is attracted to also are woman or have a relationship with the femme gender range.

Basically: identity words are imperfect. Often people think of identity as a slider like this: 

And identities as a fixed point on this slider, ie: 

however, this slider is useful to show more complex genders such as non-binary genders, as well. For example: 

Someone who may feel constantly a bigger range of gender than just ‘woman’, but their gender includes ‘woman’

Someone who’s gender changes over time, moving between ‘woman’ and non-woman gender ranges. 

SO. Consider a gender range like this: 

Can this person be a lesbian? It seems like they partially feel like a woman. They certainly have some relationship with the femme gender range. So, where does a relationship with ‘woman’ as identity end? At what point do we say ‘no, you can no longer call yourself a lesbian?’ It’s a really hard question, because as you can see there is someone there who is having the oppression and experience of a woman some of the time, and for whom ‘lesbian’ would be a correct word. 

What about this?

Someone who feels either like a man, like a woman, or like both? 

Can they call themselves a lesbian? What if they feel like a woman 95% of the time, and a man 5% of the time? At what point is there a ‘cut off’, where they are no longer able to use ‘lesbian’? Are they only able to use lesbian when they feel like a woman? 

As I pointed out, these are tough questions and a lot of the time they can really only be answered by the person who’s self-identifying. 

me again. also, i guess the term straight excludes nb people too? like, i just want the world, include our terminology, to be inclusive of nb people

Note: I am also cis and I do not want to speak over non-binary people and I don’t claim to be completely educated on that matter... so if anyone who sees this is nb and knows better then please let me know in the comments or send a message!

To clear a couple of things up first: mlm and wlw were created to unite the gay/lesbian and bisexual communities. Gay men and bi men have a lot of things in common and so do lesbians and bi women - thus the terms mlm/wlw to celebrate our common experience and also to support each other. ”Sapphic” is another term for wlw, I don’t know if there’s an equivalent for mlm.

If we’re being strict then monosexualities (straight and gay) would exclude nb people but the thing is: just by looking at someone you cannot always tell a person’s gender. Some nb people present like one of the binary genders. So if a straight women were to find herself attracted to someone she thinks is a man that person may just as well be a masc-aligned nb person or an nb person who is closeted and cannot present themselves in the way they wish to. I would hope that any decent monosexual person who finds themselves falling for a non-binary person would educate themselves on non-binary genders and non-straight sexualities. I think that’s the least one can do to be accepting and supportive of the person they claim to love.

I think that nb people who are fem- or masc-aligned and only attracted to one gender or people presenting as that one gender would ‘’’’maybe’’’’ use terms like gay or straight. But I see how this will probably lead to confusion. I think that’s why a lot of nb people use “queer” because the whole concept of gender and labeling one’s sexuality based on gender can become difficult.

[insert elaborate argument for the use of the word “queer” as the most inclusive term for all non-straight sexualities as well as non-cis genders and any intersections between those!]

Tbh... I don’t know if I can give you a more solid answer so I will tag this accordingly and hope that there are some non-binary people willing to shed some light. Maybe there’s also some advice from nb people on how monosexual people can be more inclusive.