yk what I didn’t get overstim as a kink until I framed it in the context of service. Like being overwhelmed by the feeling, it’s too much, and yet your partner asks “can you be good for me? I want you to cum again for me, I know you can do it. I know you want to be good for me”. and I’m like oooohhhhh now I get it. it’s abt bearing the feeling because you asked me to. It’s not abt the feeling it’s abt the act of pushing past discomfort bc they want me to.















