#mycodex

oh whoops my bad for most of my friends being female because I knew them since childhood. Yeah they're not my community, girls rule and non girls (me) drool. Also sorry for saying that I have things in connection with women just because oh just because I grew up being told that I would become a woman and my body's autonomy is talked about as being/not being a woman's right even when the word woman doesn't need to be used and that I'm treated as a woman even when I don't want to be and that being treated as a girl when I was a child directly influences my thoughts in the present day like having a fear of embarrassing myself around men specifically. Sorry I totally forgot I'm not allowed acknowledge any possible connection to perceived womanhood anymore. And that those things aren't actually connections to womanhood because not every single woman on the planet experiences them.

I will never deny that trans women have a connection to womanhood AS WELL (being women!) It's just not the same exact kind because we have different life experiences!!

The OP of the original post said that [because she's a good person and not a stinky tme] she would never claim a connection to manhood. She probably said that to get one over on "TMEs" , and I know most trans women don't want to claim that connection which is valid, but if you're reading this and YOU want to and the only thing stopping you is thinking it's morally wrong, I promise it's actually fine. You are allowed to be in communion and community with men/cis men/perisex men. First of all because they're people you can talk to, not movie monsters, and second because you probably have shared struggles you can commiserate on.

Specifically, the post says that having a prostate is not and could never possibly be a connection to manhood. okay let's look at attitudes surrounding prostates just for fun. Hmm having seen many advertisements about prostate medical treatment that have to state "please go to the doctor if you can't stop peeing in the middle of the night for no reason please please it's not that big of a deal to go to the doctor you don't have to suffer like this" ..... it kind of seems like... maybe... people with prostates are unlikely to go to the doctor when they're bothered by them because that's seen as weak.....hey what's another group in society that is treated as weak for acknowledging their problems..... also wait what kind of people are featured in those ads without exception, and what kind of person will the staff assume you are when you do book the appointment thus making the idea of going to the appointment super uncomfortable and something you want to put off if you aren't actually that kind of person......

Wow is having a prostate uniquely difficult because it's seen as something you're weak for having an issue with because it's connected to society's idea of being a man? Can people with prostates struggle with something in silence because it's a "man thing", even when they aren't men? Can women with prostates literally get cancer because of a connection to manhood even when they are women? ?

When Fox is trying to eat Lucy and Rabbit and Terrapin keep interrupting, Fox is very specifically shown to lock the door. The door never gets unlocked. yet later in the episode Barry is able to interrupt and save Lucy by barging in with all his gifts and things, opening the door himself from the outside.

When I first realized this I was like "oh I guess that's a mistake." But I thought about it more and remembered earlier in the episode when Terrapin was freaking out about Barry waiting outside the house, and basically says that locking the door would be as effective against him as "putting up a No Wolves sign".

I'm really not sure whether I believe this was intentional or not. On one hand it's just really odd and specific, but on the other hand this show is really clever, and it's quite the coincidence that both those things happened in the same episode. If it was intentional, it implies that Barry specifically or Wolves as a whole in this universe just have a latent ability to magically bypass locked doors.

Then as I was formulating this Tumblr post in my head I remembered the episode where Barry literally has a whole B plot caused by him locking himself out of his own house. So if the lock thing was intentional by the writers, they probably hadn't thought of it by that point, and/or it's a wolf ability that takes time to develop, and/or Barry developed it as a result of that incident as a means of self preservation.

I actually don't think Jax was favored in the finale too much over the other characters. The other characters got enough attention in my opinion and the parts where Jax was centered were extremely thematically relevant. Also the show is not thematically hollow. Those are both takes I keep seeing and I disagree with them both.

Theme: lack of human connection (that isn't curated by an algorithm and heavily surveilled) = destruction of self. Jax continually rejects human connection, hurting herself and others. This is contrasted by Pomni reaching out to her even after everything, as well as the other characters' relationships which keep them from abstracting (notably Zooble and Gangle.)

Jax telling Pomni she was making things harder by loving her after everything she had done reminded me of Crime and Punishment. It's harder to be forgiven and still loved after doing something horrible than it is to have not been loved in the first place. (and the difficulty and fear of being loved, vulnerability (tadc), being taken care of (c&p), being like the female characters (in c&p the female characters Sonya and Dunya are role models for their continual willingness to give and forgive yet Raskolnikov continually refuses being taken care of & agonizes over whether to help others, in tadc Jax is scared of being a woman).