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oh whoops my bad for most of my friends being female because I knew them since childhood. Yeah they're not my community, girls rule and non girls (me) drool. Also sorry for saying that I have things in connection with women just because oh just because I grew up being told that I would become a woman and my body's autonomy is talked about as being/not being a woman's right even when the word woman doesn't need to be used and that I'm treated as a woman even when I don't want to be and that being treated as a girl when I was a child directly influences my thoughts in the present day like having a fear of embarrassing myself around men specifically. Sorry I totally forgot I'm not allowed acknowledge any possible connection to perceived womanhood anymore. And that those things aren't actually connections to womanhood because not every single woman on the planet experiences them.
I will never deny that trans women have a connection to womanhood AS WELL (being women!) It's just not the same exact kind because we have different life experiences!!
The OP of the original post said that [because she's a good person and not a stinky tme] she would never claim a connection to manhood. She probably said that to get one over on "TMEs" , and I know most trans women don't want to claim that connection which is valid, but if you're reading this and YOU want to and the only thing stopping you is thinking it's morally wrong, I promise it's actually fine. You are allowed to be in communion and community with men/cis men/perisex men. First of all because they're people you can talk to, not movie monsters, and second because you probably have shared struggles you can commiserate on.
Specifically, the post says that having a prostate is not and could never possibly be a connection to manhood. okay let's look at attitudes surrounding prostates just for fun. Hmm having seen many advertisements about prostate medical treatment that have to state "please go to the doctor if you can't stop peeing in the middle of the night for no reason please please it's not that big of a deal to go to the doctor you don't have to suffer like this" ..... it kind of seems like... maybe... people with prostates are unlikely to go to the doctor when they're bothered by them because that's seen as weak.....hey what's another group in society that is treated as weak for acknowledging their problems..... also wait what kind of people are featured in those ads without exception, and what kind of person will the staff assume you are when you do book the appointment thus making the idea of going to the appointment super uncomfortable and something you want to put off if you aren't actually that kind of person......
Wow is having a prostate uniquely difficult because it's seen as something you're weak for having an issue with because it's connected to society's idea of being a man? Can people with prostates struggle with something in silence because it's a "man thing", even when they aren't men? Can women with prostates literally get cancer because of a connection to manhood even when they are women? ?
I promise that acknowledging this is not morally wrong and does not hurt trans men. And that the same is, of course, also true in the other direction.
