#mreh

so, spouse and i were married in pennsylvania, where thanks to quakers, it's possible to get married without an officiant. all ya need is the proper paperwork and two witnesses to sign it.

so at our lowkey, casual wedding that was as small as it could be without either of our mothers rioting, we hadn't decided on the witnesses in advance (extremely extremely lowkey wedding) and my mother, bless her heart, my very very mormon mother, indulges the mormon instinct to Defer to the Men and Patriarchs and suggests both fathers sign it, and I knew *exactly* that's what she was doing, so.

It'd be Christmas Eve where I'm from, huh? At least judging by the date everyone else is following on here.

shit sucks when life upends. but it's for the best. things are improving a lot. divorced, moved, new job, new state, legal weed, saving up to leave the country. getting there, getting there.