#mhatess

Hi darling,

I’m 99,9% sure you’re talking about Tess. We’ve had more admins with DID but Tess has been here the longest and answered most questions about it. They are still a part of the blog, but at the moment they’re taking a break to focus on themselves and their recovery until they are well enough to participate on the blog again. Is there anything we (the other admins) can help you with lovely? Even though Tess is not around? I hope you’re okay <3

Dear anon,

Hey there, love. I am diagnosed with D.I.D and am more than happy to talk to you about some things if you would like to. I often myself find that talking things over helps me realise some stuff. You're welcome to message me here on anon, or here or on my admin blog (tess-e-bear) or my personal blog (settofthebrightsky) privately.

Dear anon, 

Dear anon, I have been here too, not so much in a romantic way, but in I lost someone really close to me, and I felt like I died with him. I was young, and suffer from a bit of amnesia around it now, but I still to this day feel like a part of me died that day. I want to tell you that, those firsts didn't die, they are still there, they are still firsts, and they are still treasured memories, and you will have them always. Trust me, I remember that he was the first one I ever told about stuff that happened, and then I didn't tell anyone else until only about a year ago now. He made me truly happy, like no one else could in those times, he was my safety net, my rock, and when people tried to tell me he wasn't my real brother, I'd defend our relationship with my life. He was the best family I'd known. I still remember the good times, those memories won't ever leave me, and I will always find comfort in them. It's normal to go through a grieving process, even if the person in question hasn't died, it's okay to grieve. It's okay to be hurt and upset, it's okay to be numb, and angry, and it's okay to feel alone. Just know that you aren't alone, there are people here who love you. We have a helplines page (www.mental-health-advice.org/helplines) that you are free to look at if you feel you'd like to talk to someone there. I wish you all the best, lovely.

Dear Mila,

Many people feel like their romantic attraction, and sexual orientation don't quite 'match' in the way that people sometimes think they should. Truth be told there is absolutely nothing wrong with finding that these two things are different from each other. The thing to remember is that only you are going to know who you feel attracted to and in what way, so I can't tell you what you are, but I can offer an insight into things. Personally, I have identified as many different things, and tried out labels and learned about new things until I found what I thought best suited me. I knew I was attracted to girls, and boys, so I went with bisexual for a while. Then I learned about pansexuality and I felt like yes, that suited me, so I decided on that, but then I realised I didn't feel sexually attracted to anyone, so I said asexual, then I learned that romantic and sexual attraction can be different, so I went panromantic asexual, and that was that for a while, but then, after I had been with my boyfriend for a while, I felt different, so now I am confortable with panromantic demisexual. It's all just about trying things out until you feel comfortable with the label. Many people int he end just say 'I'm queer' to cover a million things, or 'questioning' which is all fine too. Maybe you will feel comfy with the biromantic heterosexual label, who knows but you?

HI ANON YES I AM :D I have missed it so much, but I feel like I'm up to being back some more thna i have been. I want to talk to you all and give you all hugs and waffles. (/^-^)/# WAFFLES! 

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