The thing about being [ingroup] that [outgroup] will never understand is that we [Barnum statement].

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The thing about being [ingroup] that [outgroup] will never understand is that we [Barnum statement].

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Neil Gaiman got greedy and tried to steal the beauty of the fandom for HIMSELF.
(I wrote this elsewhere, but I wanted to say it again.)
A lot of the plot points from Season 2/3 are SHITTIER versions of things I have read in fanfiction and seen in fanart. Neil didn't want us to have the story; he wanted to BE IN CONTROL of the narrative (and btw, this also applies to his shady personal life). The words God says in the end about how it's ultimately HER story seems like one giant "fuck you" to the fandom. But Neil is wrong. This story will always belong to us, in spite of his attempts to play God. WE are the ones who made Good Omens beautiful, WE are the ones who imbued it with our maximalist ideals of LOVE, and WE are the ones who kept it alive for 7 years. And it was the PHENOMENAL chemistry between Michael Sheen and David Tennant that inspired us to do so. I will always think of THE FANDOM when I think of Good Omens. We are the ones who made this story what it was.
One thing I've noticed about the discourse around whether Jax is transfem or transmasc is that both sides do express a great degree of media literacy, but kinda fail at being able to operate in critical discourse with eachother and so end up missing certain details or end up talking past eachother. I'll preface this by saying I do think transfem Jax is going to be canon, and even if it isn't, it's very likely still the intended reading. We do have fairly concrete out of canon evidence (like that progesterone post) to suggest this. But, that being said this problem in the discourse does still exist, and one good example of this is the maid dress scene. I've consistently seen the argument that this scene disproves the idea of transmasc Jax as it would be a horrible thing to put a transmasc person through. This is a fair argument, it certainly would be. But it misses the point that it's also a horrible thing to do to a transfem Jax too. Like, reading this scene through a closeted transfem Jax lens, what we see here is a closeted trans woman being forced into a dress against her will, essentially putting her in a double bind where she is either forced to perform masculinity or effectively out herself. Then she is proceeded to be made a mockery of because of it. This action is still a hurtful action by Zooble. And like, that's kinda the point. This whole episode is about cycles of mutual hurt. Ragatha also seriously hurts Jax earlier in the episode. And all of that hurt that Jax is facing is a product of Jax's own hurtful actions coming back to bite Jax. Pomni is the one who tries to break that cycle, to make a connection with Jax, and in order to do that the narrative kinda requires that Jax be vulnerable and hurt. That particular argument against a transmasc reading of that scene, kinda necessarily glosses over that. I think this is a good example of why media literacy isn't just about making interpretations and defending them with evidence, because it's also about existing in dialogue with other interpretations in order to build consensus. This particular argument here is weak specifically because it does not reflect on whether or not this scene would still be harmful to a transfem Jax, nor whether or not the action being harmful is the point of the scene. And it does not reflect on those things because it takes transmasc Jax in a vacuum rather than a product of a discourse which already recognizes that Jax would have been subjected to a hurtful act either way.
Not enough people appreciate how if you are annoying enough while arguing for a position, it will push people away from that position.
Many moons ago, I use sneering liberally as a tactic for calling out all manner of bad ideas. Long before Bitcoin was published. I did it in person and online. I justified my sneering by saying things like, "we should mock bad ideas" and was very fond of the "emperor has not clothes" parable. My invective dripped with conceit and contempt. At some point, I don't know why or how exactly, I realized that this approach was entirely counter-productive. Instead of others seeing me as this bastion of enlightenment that could bestow upon corrections to bad ideas simply because they just didn't know any better, I alienated people instead. People started to hate to debate with me or even talk to me about certain topics. As far as I know, I don't think I changed anyone's mind about anything. The problem, as I see it, is that sneering is almost entirely counter-productive to progress. Sneering, in my opinion, is more about making the one doing the sneering feel better than it is about trying to actually make the world a better place. Sneering and its ilk are, IMO, one of the biggest problems with discourse today. It is a conversation stopper and usually has the effect of just making everyone entrench back into their own silos without changing anyone's mind.
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TERFs: Everyone agrees with us secretly and are just afraid of the TRA’s “cancelling” them.
Also TERFs:
I guess it’s a way of exercising control in a powerless situation, but it’s crazy how fast tumblr began fighting over who’s allowed to express what emotions about the invasion. I maintain that it literally does not matter unless your posts are influencing policy, and let’s be clear, they’re not.
I’ve been thinking lately about the messiness of conducting in-group discourse on public platforms like social media, and the transgression when people who aren’t members of the in-group participate.Â
This was inspired by seeing a lot of white people on Twitter who don’t know how to stay out of Black people’s business, but it also applies to straights who like to talk on LGBT business, cis people trying to steer trans discourse, etc. There is a lot of in-group discourse that can be used and weaponized against that in-group, and for people on the outside (for the sake of the post I’m assuming good intentions) it often is unclear or difficult to spot.
Out-group people who want to be good allies to the in-group, here’s what we mean when we say “stay in your lane”: do not open your mouth. Do not repost or retweet shit. Do not weigh in. Do not assume your thoughts are valuable or welcome. BUT that doesn’t mean you shouldn’t pay attention to the discourse, or engage in good faith with the ideas at hand. In fact, it’s important to do so to ensure that you can spot when that discourse is being weaponized or used in bad faith. But keep that engagement INTERNAL. Truly, keeping your mouth closed is all you need to do to avoid ire. That simple 👍