#menareliars

Then he nicknamed me Whimzy, because I’m a deep thinker and everything means something to me and I’m too whimsical.

Now he has a girlfriend.

Moral of the story men are liars, and you can’t trust a thing they say.

Ghosting sucks! It happens to everyone, What’s even worse is when that ghost comes back wanting a second chance or has some inane excuse as to why they ghosted in the first place.

My theory is that men, I’m sure like women, entertain multiple conversations with people at the same time and gravitate to the person that is most likely to fulfill their instant need for gratification. 

When the other prospects don’t seem as interesting or require more effort to woo, ghosting is inevitable.

So what happens when that ghost reappears weeks, months or even years later like nothing has happened? How do you handle it? Do you give them a second chance?

I’m a big believer in ball busting😂 If the person was not mature enough to tell you they lost interest or that they have made a connection they would like to see through, then I like to play a little game.

FAV ghosting recall story:  Guy ghosts after making a FIRM date.  Date, time and location all established.  Day of date, I text to confirm and get NO response. Clearly, another fishy in the sea has caught this man’s attention or he has died.  There really is no other viable explanation for ghosting.  6 weeks later he texts me out of the blue and says “hey, how about that drink?”  So I coyly reply “yes please 😉”. We establish where and when to meet and I tell him that I hope he actually comes this time and he tells me some sorry excuse about having had  to “work” the last time.  He is a physical therapist.  Our previous date was set for 9:30 as his clinic closes at 9pm.  He ghosted me at 3pm lol.  

So flash forward we are sitting in the pub, we order drinks and I lean over with a cute smile and say “so what happened last time?”.  THIS was his explanation. He had a last minute client show up and he couldn't leave.  Really???  At 3pm you knew that a last minute client would show up at 9pm?  I called him out on his bullshit.  He then got real angry at me for accusing him of lying .  Funny how a liar gets so angry when they get called out 🤣

He was raising his voice to the point where the other patrons in the bar were staring as I sat there and smiled.  “You agreed to a date just so you can shame me?”  YUP!!

He grabbed his jacket from the back of the seat and flung it causing the chair to topple over.  “Go sweetheart, we are done here, I’ll take care of the drinks”. I winked at him and he literally ran out the door. GROWN ass man ran out the door! 

October 30, 2018

So as you know at this point of my blog I’m just exposing my online dating experience with men through the Tinder app. Long story short I have two accounts a real one and a fake one. I match with mostly the same men on both accounts just to see how they react to certain questions towards the real me and then towards another person who is very attractive. This week I met a guy that I will call “Nestor”. Nestor had invited me on a date a couple of days ago the real me and I gladly accepted, he seemed very nice, sweet and honest.

Dinner and movies he had promised me I was so happy I was actually going to go through with it then I thought ok let’s see how much is he willing to do or see how honest he is so I put him to the test which I thought we would pass with flying colors. The fake account was also talking to Nestor which he had opened up a lot more with her then me so “Gloria” (the fake account) asked him to go on a date the same day he would meet up with me and he was honest enough to say he had a date that night with someone else and then “Gloria” told him to try and ditch the other date and take her instead.

The real account gets a message the very next morning telling me he had to work late and he wasn’t going to be able to make it to the movies and dinner. I was honestly so surprised I thought this one would be different and was not that shallow but boy was I wrong once again.