I honestly surprised myself yesterday by suddenly coming to a new realisation and switching my stance on a big social issue.
Although I’ve enjoyed the aesthetic side of “pride,” I had still been uncertain of whether we should really be entitled to it on the sole basis of our identities. I didn’t like its implications of imbalance and inequality--why are minority people allowed to be proud but majority people should not? None of us can help how we were made, so why should the rules be different?
Similarly, I didn’t understand racial pride, and sometimes I found it offensive. White people can’t help their skin colour any more than POC can, so why should our attitudes be different?
Last night, I realised that isn’t it. It’s not a matter of fairness between minority and majority identities--not that there ever has been fairness. I was resistant to the idea of “special” minority pride because I was resistant to the assumption that that meant majorities should have shame, but that isn’t at all what is meant by “pride.” Minorities should have pride because they’ve had to fight for their identities, and most continue to have to fight. The fight may never end.
People of majorities have never had to fight to be considered valid, or even just to be considered human. Instead, majorities weaponised their identities to suppress and oppress others--why does that warrant pride? I used to object to this notion because it seemed like an accusation that an individual of a majority had anything to do with their majority's crimes, and maybe that accusation can’t be helped. After all, it wasn’t people of colour, people of disability, queer people, females, etc who criminalised, victimised, and killed entire groups across entire generations because they thought their identity was superior and correct. No, people of majorities can’t help who they are nor can they help what those before them did, but people of minorities can’t help the pain they’ve carried for centuries.
“Pride” isn’t an inherent right, but is dependent upon the circumstances set up against someone. If your race, ability, orientation, gender status, etc have ever been used against others, even if you yourself have never done so, you aren’t entitled to pride.
When there are no social -isms and -phobias left in the world, then we can all have pride. Until then, it is something that is fought for and something that earned, and minorities have more than earned their pride.