sorry if this isnāt really the place to post this, but Iām not really sure where else to go :(
Iāve contacted Dr Lorimer 3 times (may, june, and now nearly 3 weeks ago) and am still waiting for a response and itās getting harder and harder to not get disheartened and just lose hope that Iāll get to transition soon. itās really taking a toll on my mental health, so I was wondering if anyone maybe has any advice or something on dealing w this and not losing hope??? or if anyone can suggest what steps I should take next??
Iām afraid you will likely be waiting a long time for Lorimer to get back to you. Some of our followers have been waiting more than a year for a response from him.
This is such a long journey and now more people are accessing care privately, the waiting list for private care is longer than itās ever been.
While you wait for Lorimer also make sure you are on the NHS waiting list. So that you are moving up both lists.
The wait for each stage of this journey is excruciating and the advice I can give you is to try and live your life. Do things that will distract you from the wait. As long as you know you are on waiting lists, there really is nothing more you can do to speed things up.
A good idea while you are waiting is to try to work on your body and your health. This may help you feel you have some control over your journey. This will not only prepare your body to cope with whatās to come but also help you feel that you are āmasculinisingā your body (if that is your goal).
Unfortunately accepting that you very likely will not be transitioning medically any time soon is going to be important, otherwise you will literally fixate on every day that passes and your mental health will suffer a lot.
Itās essential that you find ways to cope while you wait, whether that be shopping for clothes that make you more comfortable, getting a new haircut, trying STPs, packers and binding, getting your name changed on all your documents etc etc. All of these things take a lot of time and energy but doing them will give you something to work on and feel like you are getting closer to your medical transition.