UK FtM Information

Hi Anon,

People don’t talk enough about the guilt of being trans and the huge amount of imposter syndrome that comes along with this.

Your are right that the way you have been brought up will effect how you feel about your trans identity and how that makes you feel as a person. Some people benefit greatly from talking therapies because this allows them to get to the core of what it is that they are feeling and work on coping stratagies to address this.

We are also unfortunately in a time where trans hate is very much in the media and the world can sometimes feel against us. But it is important to remember how much you have achieved already. You are someone that has obviously pursued their transition journey, despite what others have thought. Being trans in this world is one of the bravest things you can be.

So by being a trans parent, you’ll be showing your children what it means to be brave and to pursue the things that make a person happy. You’ll also be showing them the true meaning of acceptance for whoever they want to be or whatever they want to pursue. Being a parent is not about gender, it’s about how you love your children, how you love your partner, how you show up for your children and most importantly how you love yourself.

You have to find a way to address your inner demons, specifically the ones that are making you feel like there is something wrong with being trans. A good idea is to make a real effort to drown out media noise, ignore social media, don’t read anything negative about anything trans related and create a bubble for your family that is safe, happy and full of love.

Continue to work on yourself so that you can be the person you have worked hard to become and your children will without a doubt love you for that.

Another idea is to follow other trans families on social media so that you can feel that there are others who are in the same position as you and that is the type of positive social media you may need, especially during your times of doubt.

Time is also a great healer and the more time we give ourselves, the more time we will understand our insecurities, create a bubble for growth and be able to quieten our demons.

Hi,

Different NHS boards have different procedures for whether they contact transmen or automatically take them off the smear list once you have updated your name/gender marker.

It is always recommended that if you are comfortable, you continue to have your smear tests right up until you have total hysterectomy/vaginectomy. Obviously for some this may not an option due to dysphoria and you should never feel any pressure to have one done if you don’t want to.

Hi Anon,

Hi Anon,

Thanks for the appreciation :).

The ‘proving’ element is something that concerns a lot of people before they start T. But as you already have a GD diagnosis you’ve already done the important part. If you are going on T through the NHS or private you will still be asked questions like what you want from transitioning, when you knew you wanted to transition, why you want to be on T, what operations you want etc, which are all to confirm GD, but as you already have your diagnosis, your appointments will probably just take less time.

In terms of you not having changed your name, there is no time limit on this and you can chose when you want to do that. However, the GRC panel will not accept a GRC application without proof of name change, which needs to be at least two years old. So just something to consider.

Hi Anon,

Hi Anon,

This depends on the person. If you keep within the correct T level ranges, you won’t need to adjust your doses. This can be difficult in the beginning, but often levels out over time or with trying the different types of T. It can fluctuate, but as long as you are in the correct ranges, you’ll be fine. We provided the T ranges in earlier posts.

Hi Anon,

This is just from this morning for the Newcastle gic

cheers x

Hi Anon,

Thanks for sharing.

Hi Anon,

Hi Anon,

I took over running this page around 2018 and the admins before me had been running it for a good few years before that. So we have been running this page for quite a while now and let’s just say we have had a lot of personal experience with the NHS during that time and we continue to.

How long we continue to run this page is a good question.

When I have to make posts like my recent one about how followers respond to posts, this can be really disappointing because it can sometimes feel like people are quick to try to discredit our information and be quite rude with their responses, but not so quick to thank us for our information. If you look at the hundreds, if not thousands of posts we have made over the years you will see few people take the time to thank us for answering their questions.

So I will take this time to thank those that do thank me when I respond to your questions or have been nice when asking questions. It is also great when followers leave comments about their experiences, as this helps to give us an idea of what people are experiencing.

It is impossible to know the answers to every question or for us to be aware of everything that is happening throughout the entire UK. So while we know how things should happen in the NHS, it’s important that experiences are shared, as the NHS can often do things that are not in line with their policies.

Hi,

Hi Anon,

You could join an LGBT support group in your area. This could be a good way to meet people and help you get used to talking to men in a safe space. Some support organisations run events so it may be a nice way to meet people or even just ask other bi people for advice in a place that you know they’ll understand.

I just thought this was worth sharing in case any followers are in a position where they have been discharged and their GP has taken their hormones off them - you may be able to go to your GIC for backup.