#lifewithanewborn

WHERE ARE MY NEW (OR RECURRING) MOMMAS AT?! We are SO busy leading up to the birth of our brand new babe, that we may forget WE need a lot of things too! Well, maybe not a lot, but some items to make our life easier, to help with the massive trauma our body just went through, to help care for our baby and ourselves. You know, the works! Here is my blog about NEWBORN ESSENTIALS. Plus, we will be…

The amount of shocked faces I get when I say my children sleep through the night and have since, basically 6 weeks, is insane.

I’m not saying that your child will magically sleep through the night at 6 weeks for at least 6 hours at a time, every child is different.

I am also not going to give you the magic answers.

Instead, I will just tell you why I am so “strict” with my sleep/nap…

When we agreed to have her come, this is not what I expected.

I pictured support in all forms. But so far it has been strictly sustainment based. She says we're doing so great she didn't even need to come. I don't know how to interpret that.

My mom was able to stay with us for the weekend, a turn of events I didn't see coming and I'm so happy it did. In that very short window of her being here I felt so happy, confident and relaxed. We couldn't do anything but sit on the couch and talk and watch Animal Planet but it was perfect. And then she had to leave. And my MIL stayed. Stayed and gave Z a pacifier even though I didnt want her to have one so soon. Stayed and questioned my choice to pump and let my baby sleep instead of waking her up. Stayed and put on headphones and started cooking dinner.

I felt more with my mom in less than 48 hours than I have this whole time with my MIL. I'm not saying she's terrible or it was a bad decision to let her come or anything like that. Maybe this is how she shows her support, maybe this is what she thinks we needed. Maybe it is what David needed. But not me. I need to feel less alone, I need to feel confident in my choices, I need to be left in silence but not left alone, I need to be reassured that I'm doing things right.