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I know it can be hard to start using new pronouns and a new name, my family still has a problem sometimes and I even misgender myself once in a while so here are some ways to help you get used to new names/pronouns as well as some things we all need to remember:

Never purposely use the wrong name/pronouns out of spite or anger or for any other reason: It is never okay to purposely misgender someone so just don’t do it. We understand if you make mistakes but if you do it on purpose then honestly you’re just being awful and are probably really hurting that person

Correct yourself when someone tells you that you used the wrong name/pronouns: It’s not hard to apologize and correct yourself, and I am sure that whoever corrected you greatly appreciates it if you do. Be humble and admit when you’ve made a mistake, your pride means nothing beside someone's emotional wellbeing 

Whenever you think of that person repeat their name/pronouns in your head: This is a good habit that can help you get used to changing pronouns and/or names. If you think of that person, repeat the pronouns and/or name 3 or 4 times. Soon it will become second nature and you’ll have to worry much less about messing them up

Use the correct name and pronouns even when speaking about that person in the past: Most people don’t like when you use their deadnames and old pronouns, no matter the situation. It reminds them of their transness (if they are trans) and that’s not always the best thing. Using their chosen name and pronouns is the better bet in that situation unless they say otherwise or give you explicit permission to use their deadname and previous pronouns. This also helps avoid any mix-ups or accidentally outing someone to others

Yeah you, I love you. Even if your family doesn’t support you or if you feel like you’re all alone, I got you. 

Hi everybody! So as we all probably know, pride season is coming up and we all need to make sure we’re safe this year. So here are some tips to make your pride experience safe and enjoyable:

- Go with a group: Travelling with a group of people you trust is always the safest. Make sure that you know the whole group and have designated a meetup spot in case you get separated. Never leave the group alone, always take a buddy with you if you have to split up. 

- Don’t take drugs or drinks (especially open ones) from strangers: You never know if that person has slipped something in that drink or has given you a drug that’s laced, so be safe and buy yourself some closed alcohol containers and if you’re gonna do any sort of drugs, get them from someone you trust. 

- Come prepared: Make sure to bring the essentials (water bottle, sunscreen, money, etc.) so you’re prepared for anything that pride might throw at you

- Have a plan: Make sure you know exactly what’s going on that day. Plan your transportation ahead of time (especially if you will be drinking and/or getting high, don’t drive impaired folks) so everyone knows exactly what’s going on

- Have fun!: I mean this is kind of a given but please be safe, we don’t need anyone getting hurt or anything because they weren’t being safe

I am someone who hates shopping and almost always got weird looks when I shopped in the men's section and I found a few things that help:

1. Shop in stores that don’t have gendered change rooms: I hate stores that have gendered change rooms because there’s never one I can use. What I do instead is shop at stores like Old Navy that don’t separate into men and women’s change rooms

2. Find what fits you and then shop online: So I don’t personally do this but I know that once you find the size and style that fits you the best, then you can buy clothes from that store online without too much of an issue. Stores sometimes have special online-only sales too which is great for your wallet. 

3. Take a friend with you: It can be intimidating to shop alone, especially if you tend to get weird looks. Also, you can get suggestions from them, and that can be pretty rad.

Alright, that’s all I have right now but feel free to add any more suggestions. 

Let’s not lie here, I think that term is absolute bullsh*t. Some people experiment with their gender expression and identity and then realize that it doesn’t fit them, and that’s totally okay. We need to destroy the idea that gender has to fit in a binary, or even that we need labels at all if we aren’t comfortable with them. POlicing peoples gender identity doesn’t give you brownie points or make you important, it just makes you a gatekeeper. Don’t we already have enough unnecessary gatekeeping already?

Trying to find a gender identity that fits you is very important and hopefully, we can all experience a sense of gender euphoria once we find the right one. As long as you’re respectful and don’t try to invalidate people who identify as the identity you decided didn’t fit you, there’s no harm in trying to figure yourself out. 

I love space

I always have and probably always will

I love the infinite unknown and the twinkling of the stars

I love the quiet acceptance that space seems to give to anyone who needs it

Even if space doesn’t know you

it doesn’t judge you

To you, this may not seem relevant to identity

but space had no quarrels with your gender

The starts don’t misgender you

The moon looks down with support and love

The planets stand in silent support

there for you whenever you have a bad day

Space is perfect

Perfect in its imperfections

Much like us and our identities, personalities and actions

The similarities may not be apparent to you or me or anyone else

But look deep and it can be seen that we are alike

Because we are the stars, made of eternal stardust