#lgba

As a lesbian in a majority christian country who has been likened to an insect, an animal, a plague, a disease, who has suffered conversion therapy where my sexuality was treated as something to be exorcised of me, something that made me deserving of punishiment, I can't say that the response of the trans and queer community and the public at large, ever so glad to stand by, has been shocking, as it's nothing new, or unexpected; they've always been expressively homophobic.

What does enrage me is that, also expectedly, there will be no accountability. Straights who lived through the AIDS crisis and just sat it out watching gay men and lesbians fight while the men died and lesbians cared for them alone are sure as fuck not owning up to it nowadays, they stay claiming completely straight-faced they always stand up for what's right, against the staus quo, perennially on the right side.

It'll be the same with this. Hands will be washed, accounts (anonymous anyway) purged, blames shifted. Those who supported it too publicly will identify as victims now, of the "system" that apparently exists independently, which brainwashed them into believing gays were bigots, against their purest intentions.

My donation for hate mail policy is clearly outlined in the ask button text (and my bio, and my pinned post).

If you believe LGB Alliance / radical feminist groups / gender critical feminist groups are responsible for trans genocide and you read my ask policy and still send me hate mail, you are the one funding it. If you genuinely believe these groups are responsible for killing or otherwise harming trans people, then I hope whatever message you send me is worth the money I put into that. Otherwise, I guess you must also believe your poor impulse control and need to feel big and tough is responsible for harming trans people.

Leaving rude comments, trying to get me to argue, and sending me hate mail is not going to work. I’m not going to fight you and I’m not going to be bothered. I will however, post about it if I feel so inclined.

After a user tried to pick a fight with me and I reblogged with a polite response (and just ignored everything else they sent me because, again, I don't argue and it's a waste of my time and energy), my total daily notes doubled and my following spiked.

Nobody else tried to argue with me and other radical feminist blogs jumped in to argue with them on my behalf (thank you ladies!). People love it when you send me hostile messages and I dunk on you (politely). It's actually quite good for my blog and good for whatever organization I donate to. Win-win!

So yes, if you try to get my attention and I don't ignore you or you send me hate mail, it just means more notes, more followers, and more people not on radical feminist Tumblr who would have otherwise not seen my posts see them. A few dollars is no skin off my back. I don't even mind when even more people reblog to argue or insult me, because other radical feminists will argue back. (Wonder how I got into radical feminism? Someone reblogged a radical feminist blog to argue with them, and I read it. Then I kept reading. Your followers are reading my posts when you reblog them, too.)

Anyway, moving forward, I'll do like a monthly roundup or something so I don't have to dignify every hostile response with a post this long since it's a waste of my time and energy and I'd like to focus on better things.

it’s also NOT a moral failing to stay in the closet, you are under NO obligation to put yourself at risk or make yourself uncomfortable by coming out. IF you want to come out out, then the  time and place you do is up to you, and the people who you tell are also up to you. Pride and privacy are not mutually exclusive. it can even be possible to talk to others like you and even date without being fully out of the closet, and it is NOT childish to do so.

Please stay safe and know that same-sex love will always exist all over the world. There are millions and millions of us spread thinly across every nation every culture in every job and faith and organization. Wherever your life may lead, please know one thing: