#lacking empathy

in today’s news: my current “nice guy” bf is starting to make me feel exactly the way my abuser did 

People who consider a lack of empathy to be an objectively negative thing have never thought about how valuable of a skill it is to be able to remain calm and focused when everyone around you is upset and panicking. Lacking empathy is being able to remember the steps to CPR when everyone is screaming and crying because a child just got pulled out of the bottom of a pool. It's keeping your cool when everyone around you at your job is yelling at each other because someone called in sick and now you're slammed. It's being able to keep focused on safety procedures instead of running into a burning building with no gear on because you hear people screaming. Having zero emotional connection to your environment can be an extremely helpful trait that I feel gets unfairly demonized when it quite literally has possibly saved the life of you or someone you know.

Lacking empathy doesn't mean I lack a moral code.

I need to realize that it doesn't matter how cute you are and it doesn't matter how driven you are, you are selfish and your actual personality isn't all that great. It's kind of shitty. Sure you like all this nerdy shit and sure your mannerisms are cute and yes you are talented because of how focused you are on your music, but you are actually really toxic in the way that you deal with people and issues and the way you cause drama. I need to meet some other people so I don't default back to you just because I feel like we have shit in common because no matter what, when it comes down to it, our core values are not the same. I shouldn't want to be around someone that treats women and people in general like objects to be run dry or taken advantage of when you are stressed or feel alone. It's just hard because not many people have that drive to do something with their life like you do and you're super accepting and adorable nice one minute and shit, BUT then another minute you're a hypocrite and disregard people and act like a dick. I don't know. It's like you just want do whatever you want and what you want is to toy people and use them without consequence because you lack morality and sense of empathy for others. How is it that so many people lack empathy?

Someone's like heavily sobbing at its 5 in the morning like, me too bitch but at least save that shit for when the sun comes up