#jack.speaks

we can be hurt without someone else being to blame for being the epicenter of that hurt. just because something makes us upset or hurts us, doesnt mean the other person made a mistake or should have done something differently or needs to apologize

negative emotions are an inevitable part of life and sometimes they were always going to happen no matter what because of the situation and there was no way to avoid them and thats okay. sometimes there's nothing to be done to fix a negative emotion or prevent it from happening. sometimes people we love and care about are going to hurt us and thats okay. its a part of being human. we will inevitably do the same to them. but just because we were hurt doesnt mean they did something wrong.

and we can take the time and space to be upset about that privately without involving them in our emotions at all. because even when our emotions are triggered by someone else, that doesnt mean they have to answer for them

hey guys, so a lot of you know ryo and I and the shenanigans we tend to get ourselves into and recently, in our adventures, we came upon Frankie, the sweetest little 11 month old boy you could ever meet in your life Frankie (the name ryo and I gave him since his owners hadnt named him in the entire time they owned him and were just calling him "the cat") was living with a family who was not equipped to get a cat and was horribly abusing and neglecting him. they were gone from the house for weeks at a time and only home on the weekends and would leave him there alone, with barely enough food and water let alone any toys or enrichment. his single toy was a purse charm attached to a zip tie. when we found him, he was nearly skin and bones because the week prior, someone had "accidentally" locked him in a bedroom with no food, no water, no litter box, and no air conditioning during an 80+ degree heatwave for an ENTIRE WEEK. he was, essentially, abandoned in this house and desperate for love and affection. when we got there he immediately attached himself to us. he cried anytime one of us left the room and even followed ryo into the shower because he was so scared of being left alone again. he is the sweetest, cuddliest, most velcro little boy you could ever imagine and now sleeps with one of us every single night. so obviously, there was no way we were leaving that house without this cat. so we changed all our plans, ran to get a pet carrier and a harness for him, illegally loaded him into our rental car, and took him home with us. we did inform the owners that we were, essentially, confiscating their cat because theyd been abusing him horribly and to the shock and surprise of no one they really didnt care all that much and let us. once we got him back to my place in pittsburgh, which was the closest to where we were at the time, the priority has been getting him healthy and all set up so that he can go live with ryo in missouri long term because unfortunately I cant take on any new animals at my current place, so he is technically ryo's son boy. thankfully that has not been too difficult, he's back up to a healthy weight now and playing his little heart out causing mischief and crimes on a nightly basis. now obviously this cat had never seen a vet in his life so we were starting from scratch and ryo has been fronting the bills for his vet care while i take care of the food and treat budget (and i promise he is getting sooooo many treats), and while we have been managing it's still a lot and the cost of travel is steep so we're hoping with a little extra help we can get him settled sooner rather than later since the poor boy has been through so much already. weve already gotten him his check ups, vaccinations, and a neuter, so our next goal is the flight. below i've listed the cost breakdown with links to the sites for all those things which explains what weve spent so far and why we need help with the last $550 for travel, but please feel free to ask any questions you might have! the reason the flight is so expensive is that unfortunately I cant do any of the normal cost saving measures I normally would take for flights like long layovers and flying into cheaper airports farther away and taking the bus. I have to fly as direct as possible with as few stops as possible to reduce the amount of stress and time Frankie will have to spend in the carrier, which unfortunately means a higher ticket price than normal. COU is a regional airport with limited flights, which means their base prices are expensive as hell as only a few airlines fly in and out. i understand money is tight for everyone right now and the world is on fire so please dont feel any pressure to donate or to donate a large amount, every dollar towards this helps us out and sharing and spreading this around is just as appreciated and we and Frankie thank anyone who took the time to read all this!! Cost Breakdown: vaccinations: $94 neuter: $62 american airlines flight from PIT to COU: $400 pet carrier fee: $150

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the only way to truly and genuinely prevent harm is by first acknowledging that all human beings are capable of causing harm to others if given the right circumstances, including u

u genuinely must first understand and accept that if given the right circumstances u personally would harm others and that the only way to prevent that is to be constantly checking ur own behavior and making sure there are safeguards in place to protect people against harm. none of us are immune to propaganda, neither are we immune to causing harm