#isdaythree

Commodified Sexual Freedom is as a social power, we must have multiple partners that we can make a good judgement of who we want to be with and this means that we detach ourselves from emotions which is a big problem because our emotions get us through the social world. If something isn't right, our emotions let us engage in the information and knowledge that we get and that can come from the internet. 

Agile programming was originally a tech development process, created to fix the ineffective process of most businesses. It was designed to break the development process into small chunks that would either succeed or fail quickly to save time from being spent on a project that would eventually fail. Bruce Feller adapted this technique into an agile manifesto to help families run smoother. There are three main parts:

1. adaptability: this is necessary because you can't predict everything that might happen, and adaptability allows one to react in real time. An example is having family breakfast instead of dinner if there is a conflict at dinnertime.

2. Empowerment of children:by giving children a say in their own development, they get practice in independence which is an ultimate goal of parenthood. An example of this is having children be in charge of their to-do list, as my artifact shows.

3. Sharing your story: by defining your core values as a family and telling your children about their family history, it gives children a higher self-esteem and makes them happier. An example of this is family meetings.

This concept of parenting relates to the effect of the new media on family life, as this technological concept has been adapted to form a parenting concept.

In the article, Sexual use of the internet, there were really two arguments that were made. One being sex happened to the internet and the second being internet influences the behaviors that it facilitates and fuels the creation of new ones. And to answer these arguments, they did a research study involving homosexual males and an online dating/chat room for them to use. Essentially asking them how they felt before and after using the internet and most of them felt more confident when using the internet to fulfill their pleasures. 

The artifact above is showing how when being homosexual it is hard to, in the public to be open about their sexuality. Over the internet it is easier to hide behind something and portray themselves one way, even if it doesn't show who they really are. The study showed that men felt more comfortable being open on the internet and gaining new relationships because they are able to create their image and what they want to be seen as. 

This article goes along with the concept interface, demonstrating the media and how it is really helping shape the gay community. The online sites show a place where homosexuals are able to communicate with people who have the same common interests. Even though this article is mainly talking about homosexuals, I think that it can be related to the heterosexual community as well. The community as a whole finds it easier to talk to people over the internet rather than face to face, and the internet is giving people easier access to get to know more people whether it be in a romantic way or just to make friends that share common interests. 

Men who have sex with other men, or MSMs are a group of people that have been largely affected by the internet and online sexual experiences, such as online dating. In a study with 36 MSMs, it was found that most MSMs saw changes, both on and offline, such as sexual diversification (a quantitative and qualitative shift in sexual partners), acceptance of their sexuality, and different communication patterns (more quality interactions).

On the flip side, some MSMs had negative reactions, such as increased suspicion and addiction. My artifact relates to this increase in suspicion, where the uncertainty and frequent lies of online interactions causes this negative impact.

This relates to the concepts of interactivity, through computer facillitated the human-human interactions the MSMs had, identity, which the MSMs were enabled to explore further online, addiction, through the addictive nature of the secret world of online interactions, and the rationalization of love, through the modern idea of online love and the allowance for more potential partners and more experiences.

Commodified Sexual Freedom

            “…I believe such a kind of intensely commodified sexual freedom interferes with the capacity of men and women to forge intense, all-involving, meaningful bonds, which provide one with knowledge of the kind of persons one cares about” (Illouz). Basically, Illouz states that the sexual freedom we are giving through the use of internet is stunting our social lives, making us incapable of forming meaningful relationships.  

            I used this artifact because it seemed to best represent what Illouz is trying to state. That the internet will only lead to casual encounters, so meaningless that one does not even bother to learn the true name of whom they are talking to.

            “If the second wave of feminism opened the gates of sexual constriction and repression, it is now time we reexamine the state of estrangement and alienation created by the interaction and intersection of emotions, sexual freedom, and economics” (Illouz). While I will agree that the internet has led to “bodies in bubbles,” it does not mean that we are alienated from community. Quite the contrary, I believe that is why we have such addiction to these social network sites, because it fuels our need for daily socializing with people we truly want to talk to, rather than who is available to talk at the time. True, there is nothing better than sitting face-to-face with a cup of coffee and catching up, but as Americans we live busy lives. We are always on the go and always working. So why should the way we socialize not be allowed to adapt to the way we live our lives?