#ira thoughts

Only to realize on the day of that you can't actually go to the event because you're doing too badly

Including from those claiming to believe victims

Someone posted a really long video talking against some of the points from that pro Neil Gaiman article, where he also discusses Council of Geeks' coverage of the topic and how its focus on "Bad Journalism" really works like NG apologia in practice (which was also my takeaway from the videos when I saw them over a year ago)

Jessie Gender pops up to defend CoG. This is the same Jessie Gender who posted a video against Naomi King on her sideblog, where she victim blames King while misgendering them the whole video. Ah, but there is a disclaimer at the beginning that it wasn't intentional! And refilming the video would be too triggering! Apparently the video is both important enough it absolutely has to be posted AND not important enough for her to ask/pay a creator friend to redub the spots where JG uses the wrong pronoun, for example.

I still remember her community defending this.

Nonbinary people's pronouns aren't optional. I cannot see you as being pro victim after this video. As a nonbinary person, I was flinching with every single "she" used to refer to King. Gender is a prominent YouTuber, even if this was her side channel. To this day, I keep wondering if King saw the video and how it must feel to have your rape dissected, to be accused of being a liar by this prominent trans creator known for her kindness who didn't see the problem with uploading a video misgendering you. The. Whole. Time.

If one watches the response video of King's abuser, one can easily notice that nowhere in his narrative does he actually claim he got consent. His argument is mostly "Well they are established as being into me, so obviously it was consensual". I hope I don't need to explain why that is complete bullshit and why I am so disappointed in everyone who took it as an exoneration.

He is literally admitting to fucking his live-in employee. He doesn't say that didn't happen, he just says "she initiated". He was BOTH her employer AND her landlord, do you really think there exists a world in which this is ethical? Keep in mind she has 3 kids and this is all happening in New York, do you really think she had ANY power in that relationship?

And there are all of his other victims, but again, in this case he's not denying that this happened. He is not denying having slept with a woman reliant on him for her wage and shelter and people just what, believe him?

And he is using the money he has and makes off of good omens and all of his other work to sue her. For breaking her NDA mind you, so hes saying she's telling the truth and just agreed not to.

If you're defending Gaiman, you don't care about victims. At most, there have been victims you've liked that you've sided with, but you do not care about preventing harm.

I'm the only foreigner most of the time, so there is this resistance I have to overcome, on top of people's prejudices.

Im trans, only I often can't even bring that up bc I do not feel remotely safe to do so.

I bring up not being able to eat in a large cafeteria with almost 200 other ppl bc it's too loud? "Well for the weekend you can carry your meal to your room and back". I'm physically disabled so it's a miracle I didnt drop anything.

People will not shut up about how I need to speak more slowly, but I have been struggling to breathe & feeling so unsafe the whole time, I cannot do that.

So I started the second book, Redemptor, and it was a bit slow to start with, but I'm around a quarter in and it just keeps getting better the characters & commentary are so amazing

Does Courtenay Taylor seem like a great VA? Absolutely

I was talking to a doctor today re: noise accommodations and he was p dismissive and all "ah it's all super individual, we'll figure it out" (aka we do not care enough about that symptom to have some basic accommodations prepared and will be expecting you to manage your symptoms on your own with minimal support :))

And the person I was sitting next to while on the phone goes all "yeah that's really terrible to do to someone with autism"

And like. I know you mean well. But telling ANYONE "hey we don't actually plan to accommodate your disability in our rehabilitational facility :)) if that doesn't work out for you, you can just end your stay early :))) sure your insurance will make it out to be your fault but thats not our problem :)))" would be a shit thing to do and a source of a lot of stress, it being specifically about autism is just the cherry on top.