I want to point everyoneās attention to the first half of this blogās name: aspiring. I feel that I should de-bunk the notion that āI have arrivedā in any way. I am in process. I am trying, and sometimes achieving. But the āroad to lessā is paved in, well, in a bunch of stuff you want to buy but probably shouldnāt. I donāt want to diminish the struggle that exists when trying to disband from a consumeristic society. There are temptations every day. So how do we stay the course?
1. Remember Your Values
I have long thought that āwhat we believe is all we have that is truly our own.ā Turn off the TV, close the computer, and think about what is important to you... and what isnāt. For me itās important that my life is beautiful, easy, filled with people I love/believe in, and kind to the environment.
environmental kindness: when it comes to disposable products (cleaning, beauty, TP) I try to choose ones without harmful ingredients, so that our water supply stays a-ok. I recycle, reuse, upcycle, regift, swap, and borrow as much as I can, to keep waste out of landfills. I would also love to compost, but I live in an apartment, and our landlord wonāt allow it; plus, until Iām in a different living situation, it conflicts with my other value:
ease: my desire for less clothes, is because I hate doing laundry and want to do less of it. My desire for less kitchenware is because I despise dishwashing (and using our dishwasher conflicts with the value above). I donāt have a car because the idea of spending weeks or months learning to drive, spending hours in the DMV for licensure, and all the pollutants Iād be putting out with a motor vehicle, canāt hold a candle to the 5 seconds it takes to unlock my bike and ride away.
good community: in order to keep friends in your life, you have to be not-crazy. Having too many things to deal with, or not enough money to go around, makes me stressed, and kind of crazy. So choosing a simpler route means a better state of mind for me, and thus stronger relationships around me. I also shop local because I love having a fabric store, a natural food store, a dope vintage/consignment store, and a reasonably-priced cobbler within 1.5 mi. of my home. When it comes to building the community you want, you have to put your money where your mouth is.
beauty: this is where I struggle most; my desire for aesthetics often comes in conflict with a desire to buybuybuy. I have instead been both practicing patience (and consequently finding lots of stuff streetside to inspire me aesthetically!), and planting/picking flowers, to brighten and color my home-space. Plants are absolutely medicine.
2. Set Your Goals
For me, this journey is about small triumphs, not one big sweeping purse and one-day life overhaul. I didnāt want to throw anything away that could still be used, so Iāve been slowing using up all the things I donāt believe in (example: Windex) and replacing them with things I do (in this case: plain oleā white vinegar). I also acquired an inordinate amount of junk from former tenants in our basement, but because one of my values is ease, I didnāt spend days on end listing items on eBay and 10 other platforms; I sold what I could when I had time+energy to do so, and vowed that when May hit, anything not sold would go to the curb. Itās May 2 today but Iāve been busy, so Iāll bring it to the curb when I can... but Iām not gonna stop my life to pursue minimalismāand you shouldnāt either.
3. Find Your Community
For most of my life, I wished I lived in another decade. The 1930s, 40s, 50s, 60s, 70s... anything but today. Now I feel so thankful to be living in 2017, because we have evolved to make products, and company promises, that are better for people, for Mother Earth, and for society. Weāve invented fabrics from abundant resources instead of scarce ones, weāve placed new (rightful) value on human labor, and bloggers are making money by encouraging people to be better global citizens. Holy crap our world is amazing right now, amiright? I feel especially thankful to have discovered the following resources early, and rabbit-holed into discovering an even wider world of āconscious figureheadsā to inspire me. In no particular order:
Jane at FairDare - take her Fair Dare challenge!
Ariana at Paris To Go
Leo Babauta at ZenHabits
Courtney Carver at Be More With Less
Marie Kondo, author of The Life-Changing Magic of Tidying Up
Francine Jay at Miss Minimalist, author of The Joy Of Less
Jess Hunt at Rose & Fig
Caroline Rector at Un-Fancy
Verena Erin of My Green Closet
Anuschka Rees at Into-Mind
Banyan Botanicals - Ayurvedic living changed my life
Renee Mudd at Living Better With Less
The Buy Nothing For a Year project
Simplify Your Life on Tumblr
Substance Over Stuff on Tumblr
Jenn at Simply+Fiercely
Coco at Light by Coco
The Burning House - the best perspective on simplicity you can get in 5 minutes
What are your values? What are your goals? Have you found your community?
