#initimacy

Perhaps I loved prying. Perhaps insight was like touching—but without asking, without risk. In the words of Emanuele Tesauro: We enjoy seeing our own thoughts blossom in someone’s mind, while that someone is equally pleased to spy what our own mind furtively conceals.

He had loved Paris and Berlin, not just for what they were but for the shadows that hovered over them—the shadow of time, the shadow of experience, and of wishdreams, a shadow that touched him like strange intimations from bridges and stonework but that could just as easily have emanated from deep within him and, like a film, left its imprint on the narrow passages and inner courtyards he grew to love so much.

Improving assertiveness and active listening increases couple intimacy

III. Intimacy

Some people are not used to the intimacy, so they look away. They can't just be together. They say something romantic and the other can't handle it, they don't know how to experience it, so they just look there eyes away.