#i'mnotbroken

Also, I contemplated making him just say "No!" like normal. But I'm in a mood so this is how it's gonna be

We’ve had multiple people send us info on therapists and the like to help us deal with “what we’re going through”. But here’s the thing -- we don't really have frustrations or anything like that, especially with conception. If we don't conceive, at least we had fun. We honestly, legitimately, truly *do not care* if we conceive or not. We try for a year then go to plans B and C. Remember, our goal isn’t to Have A Kid. It’s to Be Parents.

I want to say thank you for meaning well to the *many* people who have said they overcame their infertility. But please stop. I do not see it as overcoming anything. I am not broken. We are simply trying to conceive naturally before we move on to other means. We have plans in triplicate for both surrogacy and adoption. We know that in all likelihood, we will have to use these options, and we don't see it as "resorting" to them. We are perfectly happy with them. We just wanted to explore natural conception first. What you see as giving me hope is quite frankly detrimental to my mental health. I need to not have hope. I need to rely on statistics. That is how my brain works. That is not how everyone's brain works, and I know that. But for me, keeping real, staying analytical ("cold" even), being public about my experiences, and probably having a darker sense of humor about it all than I really should... these are how I am coping. You all mean well, and I know it. And I appreciate it. Thank you <3 ETA:  I'm actually really okay with it. People keep saying that it sucks not to be able to get pregnant. And I'm sure for some people it does. But someone just put our situation beautifully: *Having* a kid was never our goal. Being parents was. We just wanted to try to the Grow Your Own At Home™ kit first before we went Free Range. (read: before we went with the options we thought were more likely from the start anyway)