Yes, I’m in the ‘No Dad Club’...
It’s back again. Another day out of the year along with those other few holidays and dates that you dread. Father’s Day. For those who have lost their father to death or to those who simply don’t know who their ‘father’ is or for those who know him, but he does not live up to the title. Yes, we see all of the stores with their cute & manly bbq themed hallmark cards, we see the golf gift sets, we see the department store ads filled with what to get dad. We see it all. Does it bother us? Of course. Do we let you know that it bothers us? Hell no. And we think, “one day, this will not bother me..”. Maybe one day, I can get through this time of the year when all of your friends who grew up in a ‘normal’ two parent home who post all of their long posts about how awesome their dad is and how he molded them into who they are and thanking him for spending all of his hard earned money on them. We see these posts & it subconsciously eats at us. We go through the emotions in our head. jealously , sadness, anger. We ask why? Why did my life go this way? Why is he not here? What would life be like if he was here? — stop here. Think about the things you ask yourself. You are who you are for a reason. Make this absence in your life a positive. Whether you have lost your dad to cancer, violence, natural causes, etc or if he is alive, yet he is not in your life...YOU have the choice to feel how you want to feel. Train your mind to know that what flows, FLOWS ABUNDANTLY. Every thought that comes to your mind manifests into energy. Energy creates frequencies. High frequencies always kill low frequencies. When we are feeling love, happiness, awe & kinship we operate at a high frequency. When we feel anger, sadness, rage & anxiety, we operate at a low frequency. Think about your first thought in the morning — if you have a negative thought & you continue to subconsciously think on that thought, chances are, you will have a day based around that thought. You have the power to change and train your mind. We ask why, but would we be who we are TODAY if things were different? yes. Now, some may think “but what if it was better if he was here?” I, myself am very guilty of this. The trauma we deal with in this life is to be used, treated & healed. If you never address these thoughts and feelings, you’ll always feel bitter towards the feelings and thoughts — resulting in bad days, bad energies & bad vibes. So I challenge everyone in the ‘No Dad Club’ to write down at least 5 things that effected you POSITIVELY (only positive) from this absence. this may be hard, but this will change the way you think if you only focus on the positive. For example, my dad passed away from cancer when I was 17, this was a very traumatic time period for me...but it positively effected me by making me stronger, teaching me how to survive in the world, how to love my children, be more aware of my health & grow closer to my spirituality. Yours will be different, but this helps. Take the bad away. Your father may not be here, but that does not define you. It may have made you who you are — but it DOES NOT DEFINE YOU! love yourself, you have a beautiful soul. No one can define you. Only YOU have that power & this starts in the mind.
