#healingdepression

Books that have changed my life:

Taming your inner child - Susan Anderson (this book taught me how to journal with my inner child which truly helps me to this day when I am feeling stuck or icky inside)

The Secret - Rhonda Byrne (full of positivity, so easy to read and helps shift my mindset from fear based thinking to expansive thinking based on love)

Return to Love - Marianne Williamson (this book truly changed my life, introduced me to the idea of God and surrender)

The Untethered Soul - Michael A Singer (introduced me to the ideas of spirituality and soul)

The Power of Now - Echartt Tolle (taught me about the tricks of the mind & power of meditation)

Youtube:

I grow a lot from listening to the interviews on Women of Impact - Lisa Bilyeu, I generally just search for what I'm healing on and each month there will be someone interesting I learn from which changes. But consistently I have loved the message of Sarah Jakes Roberts, her journey with overcoming shame and suffering has resonated with me a lot.

As I have been on my healing journey for over 10 years now, there are things that have been transformational and things that haven't...

Transformed my life!!

Forgiveness list. Learning about forgivness, forgiving those that hurt me, forgiving myself! I wrote a list of every single hurt in my life from as early as I could remember and went back and visualised myself giving me love in that moment and comforting the suffering version of myself to release the past. THIS HEALED. It cost me my time, and I did this over the course of a few months.

Spiritual Coach/ Mentor. Someone spiritual who can guide you, and direct you during your healing period is going to move you further along than you could ever imagine. This could be a spiritual mentor, someone from your community, or a specialised spiritual coach.

CBT - Cognitive Behavioural Therapy. I got this free in the UK (don't believe the long wait list, that doesn't need to be your story). This truly allowed me to see how my past behaviours have been holding me hostage.

EFT - Emotional Freedom Tapping. I found a very affordable coach on Fivver, and started recently private sessions to clear out old wounds that are still showing up for me in relationships.

Building my relationship with God. I cannot tell you how this changed my life, not religion - but personal relationship with God. Listening to his direction on my life and taking steps has led me to so much peace and abundance.

Meditation. Learning to create peace in my mind. I started with 10 mins almost 10 years ago, I can now meditate for 1 hour.

Daily exercise, even if its 10 mins stretches. But presence is running - this CHANGED my life. Allowed energy to flow and renew my thinking even with as little as 10 mins on the treadmill.

Waste of my time:

Yoga retreats

Instagram Life coaches

New age spirituality - believing in the universe

Courses by femininity coaches

If you haven’t read part 1, start here. 

In order to receive, there needs to be space. You need safety and emotional capacity within your body to receive love, and often this is the missing link when it comes to healing. You do all the mind work, but inside your body, that fight, flight, freeze or appease kicks in the moment you reach your safety threshold, the moment you start to feel for him, suddenly what once felt fun, turns to deep discomfort. Dating feels unsafe. Once you’ve completed the first step in part one, you’ll have figured out what your threshold is for safety in relationships. Whether it’s a guy not texting you back, or maybe when he’s emotionally available, and gets serious with you, your nervous system goes in to panic, whatever it is once you’ve figured it out you can work on these next steps: 

2] You need to heal your relationship with the masculine. With all the men in your life, and from the past. This is the clearing process. Those flashbacks of the guy that hurt you last summer, the ex that cheated, the argument that you wish went differently, the dad that was never there for you, the collective pain towards the masculine needs to be healed first and foremost. For me, this looked like writing a forgiveness list of every single man that hurt me starting from my earliest memory. I wrote it all out, I forgave myself, and each person in every situation - using my imagination and mentally used an eraser to scribble out each situation once I made peace. For my relationship with my dad, which was always a sore subject for me, I leaned on my relationship with God as the foundations for healing this fatherly relationship. I choose to see God as my father, and my dad as my humanly father who is not perfect and will never be able to provide for me in the ways God can, this took the pressure off expecting my dad to be someone he could never be. I learned to have more grace and patience for my dad and as a result he is showing up in the most loving and supportive way he has ever in my life. I also used a recording of my own voice which I played on loop overnight for about 2 weeks affirming safety around men, and the masculine (I can share in a separate post if you would like this). All of these points supported my healing with the masculine. 

Hey sweetie,

I feel your suffering, I have covered a lot of healing this in my book I will be sharing very soon! First things first is, creating some space to really hear yourself. What do you want? Who are you without the world telling you who you are? This can take some time, and a lot of reflections. Self reflection can look like daily journaling, prayer, faith, meditation, really listening. The truth is, most people want a quick fix. They want to believe that something external can heal them and help them - when this work is in fact very much an inside joy. Going from hating yourself to loving yourself is an inside job. It involves re-parenting yourself, what is the love you need right now? It might look like, less screen time, going to bed early, less Netflix, more reading. Eating less crap, drinking more water, more time in nature. The simple things most people don't want to hear or think are healing enough. I will tell you the very most healing thing you can do is build a connection with God. Whatever this looks like for you. Again, something most people don't want to hear, but study some very successful people and you will find this is the foundation for them. Its' been my foundation and the deeper you go, the more light in your life. If that's not for you, which is totally okay. Here are some additional steps:

Learn to meditate. Its crucial you can hear yourself to understand clearly what you need. Your higher self is always talking to you.

Use books as a tool to lead you towards the light, if self development is new I recommend The universe has your back by Gabby Bernstein, or going to a book store and seeing what book feels right for you. Having a healing book when you are in suffering is like having a little best friend that shows you the light when you need it.

Set the intention - this can look like prayer, affirmations. Declare what you want, move away from what you don't want. Stop saying what you don't want, focus on what you want, wholesome friendships, a career that makes you feel like you are walking in your purpose, waking up feeling you are grateful for life...

On that note GRATITUDE> yes sounds simple, annoying possibly. But the more you can say what you are grateful for each hour, just a whisper to yourself, the more light you are bringing into your life.

STOP Consuming content. I cannot emphasise this enough, there is so much pollution for the mind online, in the news, in the media. It is subconsciously creating stress and anxiety for so many people. Go on a detox. Take a break from the news. From the drama series on TV/Hulu whatever it is, those low vibe undertones from different media, including music. Stop them. Its harming you.

Finally. Re-parent yourself, bit by bit start giving yourself the love you deserve. Treat yourself with kindness. This is not about having financial means, this is about the kind thoughts you tell yourself, the loving words you whisper as you look in the mirror. The sooner you start the better.

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Healing Depression with the subconscious mind is not only possible, it's easily accessible. We are living in exciting times of epic potentiality and possibility. 

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