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Being an OC fictive for a very public source with a huge fandom can feel very isolating at times. You see all your friends and sourcemates get fanart and headcanons, but even though it feels like you should be there, too, you're not. It's like being forced to stay inside while the rest of class has recess. Of course, I know I cannot change that but make my own content, but I still find myself longing to be already part of the group.
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Me, having done absolutely nothing wrong: ....I sense.... a disturbance in the Force..... they hate me, don't they?
Next time I get hella dissociated I'm describing it as getting too lost in the sauce.
This is to any system out there that’s frontstuck.
This can be a new system just taking their first steps together, or a system that’s been aware for a while.
Breathe. You will get through this.
I know being frontstuck can be scary. But you’re still not alone, and you got this. And you are. Not. Faking.
For new systems especially, YOU ARE NOT FAKING. Trust me. You’re still valid even if you can’t switch or communicate with anyone. I can promise you it is temporary, and you’ll all be alright. You didn’t make everything up and then suddenly lose contact with everyone.
When we get frontstuck (as I am right now), I tend to take these days alone in stride. Being in a decently sized system does make for some louder days, but when frontstuck it’s just you.
You don’t need to share time today with other headmates, so go do what you love. Go watch that TV series you wanted to start. Go draw or write or play games. Listen to that song everyone else in your system complains about. Do you today.
And if you’re going through a hard time right now, I believe in you. You can do this. You are so strong, and you’re system will be back soon to help.
Take care of yourselves out there. Happy holidays! 🫶
We recently came out to our siblings regarding being a system, and they took it very well! However, we aren't sure how exactly to define ourselves. Are we all their sibling? Are only the ones that consider themselves related siblings? We have a good relationship with them, but we aren't sure what to consider all of ourselves. Of course, by blood we are related, but some don't have a deep relationship or find it awkward.
Any tips to deal with this?
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Being a headmate with low to no empathy is always interesting to me. Most of my headmates tend to have over the top empathy that leads to unhealthy meshing of emotions or feeling overwhelmed. This isn't to say that having a lot of empathy is bad, as high empathy has its place, but for us it can get too much too fast. Then I come out and it's just null compared to them. I still feel just as much, but I don't feel what other people feel. I can sympathize and understand their struggles, but I don't feel it myself. It makes me really good at taking hard news about another person and processing it. As a reformed persecutor, I keep this in mind when I come to front. Yes, I may have a trait that's demonized and seen as monstrous, but my low empathy helps my system manage harder emotions. I am good.
Look, maybe this is just spiritual me and even if you believe in tarot or not, but getting a reading that just sorta tells you "yes, it's rough right now, but you'll be okay" is really nice now and again.
Just had a major spiral of denial which almost dysregulated the entire system.
Wanted to let every system out there dealing with a heavy wave of denial right now that you are not alone and you will get through this.
Take a breath. Drink some water. Listen to your favorite tunes.
Remember, if you have to ask, you're probably not faking.
One of the systems I watch on YouTube (the Alexandrites, check them out) had a video once saying the question of "am I faking?" might really be "am I wrong?"
I'm here to tell you it's okay if you're wrong. If you aren't a system when you thought you were, that's okay. Because if the treatment for DID or OSDD works to help you heal, then in the end, it's helpful. The world will keep turning, you'll keep on living.
And hey, you might not be either! And that's amazing too! Your system will be there to help you and pick you up; that's why they're here. Be grateful for them and all the progress you've made together.
Discovery is a journey, and you're only human.
Be gentle with yourself. Denial is natural, and denial is just another wave in this endless ocean of life.
