#guyfriends

Eu gosto de você. Eu gosto de você porque você é o primeiro cara que não me confundiu em termos de, vamos ser amigos ou mais do que amigos? Mas eu sei, e você sabe, nascemos para ser amigos. Você diz que me ama mais. Mas eu amo-te mais. Porque você é o cara que eu nunca tive que adivinhar. Você me fez sentir segura. É assustador, porque as pessoas mudam. Mas no fundo, eu sei e você sabe, nossos sentimentos nunca vão mudar.

— Mia Mingus (@miamingus) September 15, 2020

Wish we had more vocabulary to talk about our friendships. Wish we didn't relegate friendship to the binary of either lover/partner or friend. ugh. it's so limiting and does not do justice to the depth and complexity of friendships and love we feel for and with our friends.

— Mia Mingus (@miamingus) September 15, 2020

My friends have saved my life. They have been there for me in some of my most darkest and joyful times. They have romanced me and i them. They are not "layovers" between partners/lovers. They are not "side dishes" to the "main dish."

— Mia Mingus (@miamingus) September 15, 2020

They occupy such an important part of what love is and can be. They don't diminish other forms of love, they enhance them. They are a unique kind of home and belonging, esp for me as a queer, disabled, adoptee, woman of color, survivor.

— Mia Mingus (@miamingus) September 15, 2020

Friendship break-ups can bring you to your knees and lay you out in bone-cold-misery. They are a particular kind of gut-wrenching heartbreak that you go through, often without the kind of support or understanding or commiseration that other break-ups get.

— Mia Mingus (@miamingus) September 15, 2020

Anyways, i just want more art and books and series and songs about friendships. I want more conversations and spaces for us to be able to talk about our friendships in. I want more language,nuance and exploration. Bc i love my friends deeply and i would not be here without them.