#genderlessness

Non-monogender: a category for all identities/terms that are not monogender; an umbrella term for everyone that is not monogender or whose gender identity is not singular.

This encompasses genderlessness and multigender, for example. Combining agender and polygender flags. Based on nonmonosexual.

Nixichood: an umbrella term for identities comprised of both genderless and aligned aspects, which may manifest as identifying as partially gendered. Also known as nixhood, nixness, nixgender or nixity.

It’s so cool to see so many folks really getting their creativity on this week! You’re all so talented! I keep grinning every time because you’re just offering up really cool, thoughtful, interesting pieces, and it’s so exciting to see new things pop up in my inbox or activity page. When else do I get to go from handwarmers to voidpunk art with stops via Doctor Who fanfiction and autistic aro-ace characters?

The second thing is that I want to let people to know that I am changing my preferred pronouns to ze/hir/hir/hirs. I was out as agender before the increasing normalisation of non-binary identities and neopronouns on Tumblr, and, at the time, singular they was the only pronoun set that had half a chance of anyone else using it. So I shrugged and went with it.

But “they” has come to feel like a pronoun that is both generically neutral and adopted for other people’s convenience--not a true expression of my specific relationship to gender and genderlessness. It’s a pronoun set adopted for everybody but me. I think, in 2019, it’s time to choose pronouns that represent me and what I want to be as opposed to clinging the vain hope it’ll be more accepted.

(Exactly two cis people in offline interactions ever used my correct pronouns, so I’m going to be misgendered anyway.)

I’ve been writing in this set for years, I like the way the possessive and the objective case are the same as in the she/her/her/hers set, and it doesn’t have that need to switch between singular and plural verb forms if you’re alternating between using a name and using the pronoun.

So, even though this means updating approximately a thousand bios in my books and all around the internet, I’ll be making that change.

If you want to know the pronunciation, this mypronouns.org article has a good explanation. If you want to know how they’re written, I’ve got a couple of short stories: Hallo, Aro: Unspoken and A Gift of Naming (a rare not-aro piece) both use this set for the narrating protagonists.

I accept that some folks may need to use “they” as an auxiliary pronoun set, and I’m not going to rage at anyone for using “they” to refer to me, but if you can use my preferred set, I’d be grateful.

Thank you so much for reading, and an extra thank you to the fabulous @the-rose-owl and @crimsonsquare for already using them. I’ve seen them both use “ze” since I started questioning and it’s felt really good to see it--something I’m taking as an indication that this is right for me.

She was really good about it, she made the conversation as easy as possible, I directed her to a few neopronoun resources online that she wants to show other clinicians, she wants to talk to a non-binary friend of hers to inquire after therapists, and I was treated like a human who should have the basic right to be who I am and use the appropriate words to describe me.

Part of me feels good that I’m being treated with basic human worth in an area where I’m so rarely respected this way and can’t expect it from anyone else who isn’t, most of the time, also transgender/non-binary/non-cis.

Part of me wants to scream and cry because I’m not asking for anything that every other cis person doesn’t take for granted and I can’t be sure of it because what I had today is so exceptional. And this? This just being treated like a person? Shouldn’t be exceptional. Shouldn’t even be up for question.

It’s amazing, but it’s an amazement that can’t be disentangled from pain.

I’m glad, so glad, that I’m now more officially me who uses those pronouns. But I’m also sad, too, that I can’t just simply be glad about it, and given more than five minutes to think it through it gets tangled up with a history of dehumanisation and erasure--not to mention coming back home to a space where I’m shoved back into an erroneous box by people who claim to love me.

(On the positive side, I’m on the second draft of Birds of a Feather and Ein is just about to meet Ihrne’s secret queer underground, so I think I have some complex feelings on the subject of finally being freely accepted while living in a larger society where that acceptance is minimal/conditional.)

© 2017 Jasmin Halama. All rights reserved.

This MANIFEST searches for a same-gendered body, which aims for liberal equalization. The demonstrated non-binary gender identity positions itself outside of the commonly known dyadic of our society and locates itself somewhere between masculine and feminine. masculine and feminine can be seen as two artistic building blocks, which oscillate and complement each other by remaining in their own entities. An exemplary equalization of gender calls for an un-equalization of physiognomy and function of both gender specific codes. Both gender stereotypes are merely a relict and have to be decoded and have to undergo chaos, before getting together again as a whole complex on the wearers body. Androgyny means not only the anatomic form of union, but also sociocultural ambisexuality. Respectively: Genderlessness. In such case androgyny can either way stands for a neutral being or for one, which positions itself somewhere between masc and fem, while oscillating between both. The in-between can be directed towards an unoccupied space, something missing or a gap; while it can also address a border or a transition. It is about a term, which is compelled to difference. The in-between always asks for a somewhat to be put in a systematic relation with. A form-finding tool has been the ritual of enrobing/dressing, which in this case takes place in reversed way; the normative order is dissolved – decoded – and the underwear is declared as overwear.

This workpiece includes a Manifest in words, collection and video.