If you havenāt seen the aromantic discourse donāt bother the aphobes are just at it again but I felt the need to throw in a thought.
Many of the arguments that aromantics arenāt queer seems to be centered on aromantic heterosexual men claiming that they are just men who want to sleep with women without committing to a relationship and soooo many aspects of this reek with unaddressed patriarchy and heteronormativity
1)assumes that the women in this situation must want a romantic or longer term relationship bc what woman would just want sex
2) perpetuates the idea that men, particularly heterosexual men only want sex and donāt want other forms of intimacy and emotion and that the average allohet man doesnāt have romantic feelings or desires. Alloromantic men have romantic desires!!! They daydream about things like, falling in love, finding a partner, going on dates, getting married, and many other generally romantic activities. It is patriarchy, toxic masculinity, and heteronormativity that teach us allo men donāt want these things!
So no arohet men are not āyour average sex pest man who doesnāt want to commitā men are capable of a wide range of emotions and desire. Aro men experience the same but with a distinct lack of romantic attraction, which colors their experience with relationships and their own identity which falls pretty solidly into queer for me
3)the fact that aro men and cis aro men specifically are getting called out feels like part of that weird trend where people accept fem presenting or afab enby and gnc people but not masc presenting or amab people. Just say you havenāt unpacked your internalized gender bianaries and go leave aro men alone