#fandom safety

Hi everyone. I wanted to share some thoughts about how what we do online can have real-world consequences. Digital evidence and legal rules have evolved quickly, and the line between the online world and the real world is much thinner than most people realize. A lot of people still assume that if you delete a post, change your username, or hide behind a persona, you're safe from accountability, but that's not always the case.

If you're dealing with harassment online, here's what that can look like today:

✑ How digital footprints reveal intent

Changing names or bypassing blocks might feel private to someone causing harm, but it usually creates a clear, time-stamped pattern that can show a broader course of conduct. In many legal systems, consistent unwanted contact or attempts to get around boundaries can support a finding of harassment or stalking, depending on the context and evidence.

✑ How evidence is uncovered online

Modern digital investigations go far beyond screenshots. Investigators often rely on archived material, account records, metadata, and behavioral patterns gathered through legal process. Trying to view profiles through alternative accounts or third-party services doesn't necessarily mean anonymity, since platforms may keep access logs or technical data that can be disclosed if legally required.

✑ Defamation and online accusations

Using labels that imply criminal misconduct, like calling someone "predatory" or "a thief" without a factual basis, can sometimes amount to defamation or libel. Whether that applies depends on the law, intent, and the actual impact. Platforms may comply with court orders or disclosure requests related to harassment or defamation investigations when legal standards are met.

✑ Why deletion rarely resolves the situation

Deleting posts or stepping away from an account doesn't automatically remove potential liability for past conduct. Platforms often keep records for a limited time under their data policies, and that material can be requested later during civil or criminal investigations. These processes can take time, so the lack of visible action doesn't always mean nothing’s happening behind the scenes.

✑ How cross-border action happens

For cross-border harassment cases, including those involving EU countries and the UK, frameworks like the Budapest Convention on Cybercrime allow authorities to request assistance across countries. Legal mechanisms such as mutual legal assistance requests or letters rogatory can be used to collect evidence internationally. If there’s enough evidence, online activity may be linked to real identities under national laws, such as the Protection from Harassment Act 1997 or similar statutes in other regions. This can lead to prosecution.

✑ When things become formal

At some point, online disagreements can move from heated words to documented records. When you shift from debating in public to calmly collecting evidence, what matters most is what can be verified, not just what people say online.

If you want to learn more about how these legal frameworks work, here are some useful resources:

Council of Europe - Budapest Convention on Cybercrime

UK Government - Protection from Harassment Act 1997

Europol - Cyberharassment and Online Stalking Reporting

To everyone reading: If someone keeps contacting you in ways you don't want, avoiding escalation and keeping a record can be much more effective than arguing publicly. Careful documentation and using formal reporting channels can help move online conflicts toward a real resolution.

I am making this post to bring urgent attention to a specific account on TikTok that has been surfacing on many people's For You Pages recently. The account @/theflashqueries is currently creating and promoting incest-based content involving the Sturniolo Triplets. This is a massive violation of the boys' boundaries and is incredibly disrespectful to them as real-life brothers and creators. this specific type of "shipping" is not only harmful but also deeply disturbing and has no place in this fandom or any community involving real people.

Please understand that interacting with this account in any way—even if you are leaving hate comments or trying to argue with them—only helps their engagement. TikTok’s algorithm does not distinguish between positive and negative interaction, so every comment, share, or "hate-watch" actually pushes their videos to even more people and potentially brings this gross content to the Triplets' own feeds. The best thing we can do as a community is to completely starve them of attention while simultaneously reporting the account for harassment, bullying, or inappropriate content.

⚠️*TRIGGER WARNING* - Violent threats⚠️

If this individual appears in your comments or DMs, I strongly recommend you block immediately and do not engage. The screenshots and his AI generated letters should explain why. He has harassed several other Phans, and it escalated with me to actual threats of violence.

"Dean Rochford" on Facebook and his various accounts on YouTube have been blocked/hidden for online harassment and death threats he sent to me between 19-20 April 2026. This individual and his threats have been reported to multiple police agencies because it turns out...threatening to harm or kill someone online is still a crime.

This was about me not responding quickly enough or sincerely enough to his 48 messages in 4 days, and politely/professionally asking he refrain from dark or threatening attempts at humor. See below.

Additional threats/harassment to other Phans:

Please DO NOT contact this individual or dogpile. Let the authorities handle it. This information is being shared to alert others. If you have been harassed and/or threatened by this person, I encourage you to report it to your local law enforcement office. Most have online reporting tools for this type of abuse. If you are located in the US, I also recommend you report via the FBI's Internet Crime Complaint Center (IC3) at www.ic3.gov.

Based on statements in their messages and their YouTube videos, this individual appears to be in or from the UK. If you are also in the UK and have been harassed or threatened, please report it to the Met Police via their Internet Crime reporting tool at met.police.uk.

The person's age or whether or not they have a condition do not excuse the behavior, and it absolutely does not allow said individual to harass and threaten others. If anything, it highlights how they are being failed by those around them, which must be addressed immediately.

This serves as an overdue reminder that the Phantom of the Opera is NOT REAL. It is a story. A story that has taken many forms and has many passionate fans. Acting like this is not only wholly inappropriate, it has consequences…Serious ones.

Oh, I completely understand where you’re coming from! It is so incredibly normal to feel a little bit of "block guilt," especially when you’re a kind person who worries about accidentally shutting out someone cool.

But I promise you, blocking doesn't have to be a dramatic, permanent sentence. It’s just a tool to keep your dashboard feeling safe and comfortable for you.

If it helps ease your mind, blocks are never set in stone on Tumblr, and it is incredibly easy to reverse them. If you ever realize you blocked someone by mistake, you can see your entire blocked list at any time by going to your Settings. Clicking on Blogs, and scrolling down to Blocked Blogs. From there, unblocking someone is literally just a single click. It's totally foolproof, so you never have to worry about making an irreversible mistake.

That being said, I absolutely do use hard blocks when someone crosses the line into actively harassing me, people in the fandoms I am in, or my mutuals. A hard block is the permanent, total lockdown option. It completely cuts off their access to you. It prevents them from seeing your posts, sending you asks, liking or reblogging your content, or interacting with your blog in any way.

When it comes to actual bullies and harassers, a hard block is your absolute best shield to completely shut down their nonsense and keep them away from your space.

I actually, also, tend to soft block people myself when I just want a gentle boundary. A soft block is just when you block someone and then immediately unblock them. What this does is gently force them to unfollow you and removes you from their followers list, resetting things without keeping a hard block active.

Or both.

The thing about Anne Rice is she managed to create a decades long discourse surrounding her characters because she had the audacity to write them to be so socially irredeemable for her own amusement. They’re horrible and endearing at the same time which makes it difficult for us to even verbalize how to describe these characters without making it sound wrong. Is there even a right or wrong way to talk about these characters? It makes us uncomfortable and it’s supposed to.

"I enjoy literary pornography, I see nothing wrong with writing sexually titillating scenes that have no redeeming social value"

- Anne Rice, The Roquelaure Reader

Those who don't know about the ongoing drama happening on Twitter, some fake fans of Aoi Mukou, who were obsessed with the name Pinterest-chan. Not only that, they began harassing many fans of Pinterest-chan who adored the original Pinterest-chan on Nezuko. They also did many things, all to steal Pinterest-chan's OC and torment the girl who owns it.

Brain-rot Gijinka trend

Those who don't know what the Brain-rot trend of Gijinkai is:

The Predators made a brain-rot trend of misusing the gijinka concept and have been using gijinka as gijinka, almost misleading the concept of Gijinka. They made this to harass the Pinterest-chan Fandom

The Same Predators

Those people were the same group who kept tormenting many fans of Pinterest-chan; they've done a lot of crimes such as:

Harassment, gr**ming, drug abuse, cyber-bullying, stealing artworks, claiming they own Pinterest for not-for-safe-web, doxing and more.

The Whole Drama For Not Having Pinterest-chan

These people are grown-up predators who cried for not having that name for Aoi Mukou and those OCs they made that are very inappropriate. They tried sabotaging many Pinterest-chan Fandom all to get her name, even spreading false accusations directed at the young girl, almost as if they planned to get rid of the owner of Pinterest-chan.

They even tried to send cyberattacks on Pinterest, claiming many artists' works as theirs, to take down the original design of Pinterest-chan, just to spread their AI slop of their OCs.

More Documents

Avoid Predators who mis-use Pinterest-chan

If you see some crazy people who are from the same group of adults making fake designs of Pinterest-chan, please report and spread awareness since they were tormenting that child, all because they can't even make their own ocs rather than stealing people's ocs

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After over a year away, I’m stepping back into this space—not as the person you once knew, but as the person I’ve become. I want to show you not just who I am now, but also the kind of person you’ve lost.

When I first joined the phandom, I was just starting to figure out who I was. I was wide-eyed, naive, and desperate to find a place to belong. And at first, this fandom felt like home. People welcomed me warmly, and I clung to that kindness like it was everything. But as time passed, I started to see the cracks in the surface.

While the phandom has done good—especially in supporting queer and neurodivergent people—it also has serious blind spots: racism, microaggressions, xenophobia, privacy violations, and cultural appropriation. And when these things aren’t addressed, they grow roots.

Take Dan and Phil. Their boundaries have been crossed again and again by fans—through stalking, oversexualization, invasive jokes, and content that steps far beyond respect. Despite how much “we love them,” I don’t believe they’ve ever felt truly safe with their own audience. And it’s not just them.

This fandom, like many others, reflects the larger issues in the world. Racism, xenophobia, and a lack of emotional safety exist here too—sometimes from fans, sometimes even from Dan and Phil themselves. It’s tempting to idolize them, but they are just people, shaped by the same colonial systems and biases that harm so many others.

I’m not saying this to condemn, but to highlight what could have been different—what I could have helped build if I’d stayed.

You see, I’m a doctor. I’ve never mentioned that here before. But more than that, I’m also a pansexual, genderfluid, creative problem-solver. I don’t just think outside the box—I connect boxes. I build bridges. And where others see chaos, I see systems that can be improved, made fairer, made safer.

Here’s what that has looked like in the real world:

Healthcare reform: In my country, we’re severely understaffed in hospitals. Doctors often see over 100 patients a day—giving each person just 6 minutes. So I created pamphlets (written and designed by me!) explaining symptoms and self-care for common illnesses. I included a Facebook page link where people can get more information and message me for help. This system eased the burden on doctors, helped patients feel seen, and saved lives.

Queer community building: Our society is conservative. Even as things improve, queer people are scattered, silent, and scared. So I started a Discord group—a safe space for queer creatives. I handpicked members by first offering emotional support online. If someone seemed in need of belonging and safe to be around, I invited them in. We have daily check-ins, conversations, art shares, writing hangouts, voice chats—everything a chosen family needs. And I’m planning to train more moderators to expand this space to reach the whole country.

Queer representation in media: Media representation here is often shallow—cis women writing gay men for clout, while queer people feel erased. No one knows what a sensitivity reader is. So I plan to become one internationally, build the demand, then bring that standard home. I’ll train others, start a company, and turn sensitivity reading into a norm. Our stories deserve to be told by us, for us.

Queer health advocacy: I plan to become an LGBTQ+ health doctor, alongside my work in family medicine. I’ll write educational blogs, offer resources, and create pamphlets that speak directly to queer experiences—meeting people where they are, especially those too afraid to seek help.

All of this is what I’ve been doing. All of this is what I could have done here, too.

If I had stayed in the phandom, I could have:

Built healthier boundaries between Dan and Phil and their fans—ones that protected everyone.

Created systems that supported BIPOC and international fans, without shaming or dividing people.

Made this fandom safe for everyone, including Dan and Phil.

But you didn’t let me. You pushed me out.

So no, I’m not here to take revenge by lashing out or tearing anyone down. My revenge is this: I’ve left. And you’ve lost me. You lost someone who could have changed things. Someone who builds instead of breaks. Someone who listens, connects, and makes entire systems better.

I’m not coming back. I’m moving forward. You can keep what’s left.

To all my (ex)friends who need to see this—

With love, and nothing left to lose.