#expressyourneeds

How to Express Needs Without Guilt or Shame 😄

Having needs doesn’t make you difficult—it makes you human.

In this Tuesday Tidbits, we explore how to express your needs in a healthier way—without guilt, shame, overexplaining, or apologizing for taking up space. Learning to speak up is not selfish. It is part of building stronger relationships, healthier boundaries, and a steadier connection with yourself.

If you have been struggling to ask for support, communicate clearly, or stop feeling like a burden, this video is for you.

Do you know your subconscious personality needs? They drive every choice you make, like what you want to do for work and how that looks, or whether romantic relationships are more important than work or work is more important than romantic relationships, or if family is more important than either or both.

Do you know how to meet your own needs? Do you feel anxiety at me asking that? Or are you a master expert at meeting your own needs? Are you able to express your needs?

I find that a lot of people go on one side or the other • they either get high anxiety when asked to meet their own needs, or • they don’t know how to ask others with help with their needs (or think they don’t have any needs that others can/should meet)

And the truth is - you need to both meet your own needs and be open to receiving help or company for your needs from others.

But do you even know your needs, truly? Do you know the needs that have been formed inside you that shape you and shape your decisions and might create conflict by us thinking our needs are standard and objectively in the order we have them?

Which one are you? Comment below! 👇👇👇

Find peace in your alone time by getting in touch with your needs on an intentional level.

I used to love alone time, but also loved being around people. As life has changed around me, friends came and went, community began looking different than in school, even my uncertainty with my career - it all changed how much or how little I enjoyed spending time alone with my only self. What I didn't realize was that I also had a choice in that; I was more so riding the wave: "now we're into alone time, now we're not" based on the outside factors - it was all subconscious and not intentional.

Once I began truly learning my needs, becoming aware of them consciously in each moment, I was able to know what I needed and have healthy ways to meet them myself or express them and ask from others safely and healthily.

You might have a negative connotation to asking others for help with your needs, but in fact - the more you know just how much you have at your disposal to meet your needs through all the different ways, the less you rely on others solely for your needs; you get a choice and lessen the burden on those others that otherwise might be unavailable for well-meaning reasons.