#esfps

Looking East from the Continental Street Pedestrian Bridge • 16 October 2016

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Heidi Priebe 

1. They’re surprisingly accepting of others’ quirks.

Though the ESFP tends to be socially dominant, they are surprisingly accepting of others. This type lives in a world of people possibilities, which means they enjoy learning about people just as they are – without trying to change or fix them. ESFPs will meet your strange quirks, your odd habits and all the little things that make you ‘you’ with curiosity rather than judgment – and they’ll often match you with their own set of quirks.

2. They help you get out of your head and fully experience life.

Introverts, judgers and intuitives alike tend to struggle with getting out of their heads and embracing life as it is. Luckily, this is the ESFP’s forte. This type – alongside their logical cousin the ESTP – is one of the most truly present-oriented types. One moment you’re having coffee with your ESFP friend and the next you’re hiking up a mountain or shutting down a club. You’re never quite sure how you got there, but you’re usually glad that you did. Life with ESFPs is nothing if not an adventure.

3. They usually come with an entire social network.

ESFPs are perhaps the most naturally sociable types – they like to know everyone and have everyone know them. For this reason, ESFPs usually have a large social network that they’re more than happy to introduce you into. You’re never alone when you have an ESFP friend – you’re a part of a large group of loosely connected yet genuinely awesome people.

4. They’re incredibly compassionate.

Though they’re extroverted sensors first and foremost, ESFPs also have introverted feeling as their secondary function – making them incredibly sympathetic to the pains of others. ESFPs don’t shy away from the hardships of their friends – they’ll be the first ones to offer a shoulder to cry on or a long talk when you need one. Plus they’re never afraid to lighten the mood with a poorly timed joke – a truly underrated skill in today’s sensitive age.

5. They are shockingly adept at analyzing your emotions.

Because ESFPs come across as happy-go-lucky individuals most of the time, their true depth and wisdom is often overlooked. This type combines extroverted sensing with introverted feeling to analyze your intentions in a refreshingly honest way – they don’t dig for drama that isn’t there and they don’t make excuses for you. They can tell when you’re being shallow, when you’re being selfish and when you’re being insecure – even when you’re lying to yourself about all of it. Plus they usually know exactly what will pull you out of your own mess – even if you’re not ready to admit it to yourself.

6. Their go-with-the-flow attitude is both refreshing and relieving.

ESFPs are not afraid to let plans change. This present-focused type relishes in the chaos of everyday life and whenever you’re freaking out about a change of plans, they’re already enjoying the exciting alternative that the change has made available. This type truly does make the best of whatever they’re have, wherever they are and it’s an endlessly refreshing attitude to be around.

7. They’re a Godsend in social situations that you aren’t feeling.

ESFPs get along with everyone – and I mean everyone. This type is an absolute natural in social situations and if you’re not feeling super enthused at a given party or gathering, they’re more than happy to take center stage. ESFPs can command attention like no other type – which is wonderful for when you want the attention taken off yourself.

8. Their openness allows for an incredibly genuine connection.

Though introverted feeling tends to be a relatively guarded function, ESFPs value human connection immensely – and they don’t mind opening up about themselves in order to achieve that connection. ESFPs will see whatever embarrassing or difficult situation you’re going through and raise you one embarrassing or difficult situation from their own past – they are surprisingly empathetic and open in all the right ways.

9. They’re hilarious.

ESFPs see the readily apparent humor in everything – and what they lack in wit they make up for in sheer enthusiasm. This type isn’t afraid to laugh at their own jokes as they’re telling them and the joy they emit while doing so will put a smile on your face even if the joke itself doesn’t.

10. Once you have an ESFP in your life, things will never be the same again without them.

Something about the warm, excitable ESFP nature is just impossible to replace. Once you grow accustomed to having one in your life, you won’t be able to imagine life without them – or at the least you won’t want to. I’d say it was a shame that this type is only 5% of the population… but let’s be real – this world couldn’t handle more than that. If there’s anything ESFPs are bad at it’s keeping a low profile – and that’s part of why we love them the most.

If he is Inferior Si, he will either be ENTP or ENFP.

If he is Inferior Ni, he will either ESTP or ESFP. 

When any of these types are stressed out or “in the grip,” they may act similarly which can make it difficult to tell them apart. Any type when in the grip of their inferior function may withdraw, become anxious, or uncharacteristically sad or angry. Inferior Si tends to show a defiance for conformity or established rules and tradition. Inferior Ni will either have an unreasonable sense of impending doom or put a lot of unneeded stock into a belief or faith that really doesn’t merit it. These are a couple of reactions I have read to being in the grip of either Si or Ni.

I apologize that I am just now getting around to this. I am not always alerted when I receive messages, plus I need some time to sort/plan out my response.

I have actually done a lot of research on this (via Google) in the past, and you are right. There isn’t a ton of information out there at this time. However, I’ve gathered enough info to give a decent idea. Assuming there is already a good understanding of the different cognitive functions, Se-doms in the grip use Ni in not the most useful way (as most types tend to do). In this case, ESFPs may draw many conclusions that are often times unfounded, and thus put a lot of stock into it. ESFPs in the grip may distrust or become paranoid of people or things they otherwise trust due to their Se (x). A common example I normally come across is an ESFP (under much stress) may torture themselves over a significant other being away for a few hours in the evening. Although it may be a normal occurrence (say a night out with friends), the ESFP may imagine they are out cheating or something like that, and dig themselves deeper into this paranoia.  

As with all types “in the grip” an ESFP may do/say things that are completely out of character. Other than becoming distrusting of people and things they normally trust, they may assign meaning to things that are also otherwise unsubstantiated. In severe cases, ESFPs in the grip will put much stock into the conclusions they come to and try to advise this (usually inaccurate) advice onto others (x). An example of this may be an ESFP putting much faith into a newly founded religion. They will then push some of this advice onto others, even if it is just regurgitating what they have heard others in field say, and having no original understanding of their own. Or worse, they completely miss the point and advise something completely inaccurate, no matter how well intended. They may also become uncharacteristically withdrawn. I shared this article not too long ago that goes more in-depth with the inferior function of ESXP types. Whereas Ni-Doms are able to find patterns and draw conclusions that make sense and can usually be supported by evidence, the ESFP draws conclusions that are a bit “out there” with no real foundation (when in the grip). 

The ESFP is marked by spontaneity, enjoyment of life, energy and passion, but just like the ENFP, the ESFP also has its sober and serious side. The ESFP’s enjoyment of life can at times overflow so that they not only laugh longer than others, but may appear inanely entertained or overly gushing or loving, as giving the impression of being too sensitive to their own passions. On account of all this merriment, the ESFP may even give the impression of being intoxicated in some cases. But all of this is not because the ESFP themselves are simpleminded or inanely entertained; it is merely a manifestation of their great willingness to enjoy life to its full, which is sometimes much more than the rest of us are accustomed to.

1. “Just because we are the “Party Type” doesn’t mean we don’t value quiet time and having deep conversations! ESFP doesn’t equal shallow!”

2. “We enjoy deep conversations. However the things you tell us we may feel the need to fix ourselves and to carry around as if it’s our own problem, which becomes quite overwhelming very fast. I love deep talks about your problems though! The more real and vulnerable you are with me the cooler I feel!”

3. “Just because I like the spotlight and being the center of attention doesn’t mean my confidence is quite as high as it seems.”

4. “I wish others could see how our intense focus on people allows us to use that information and experience strategically. It’s a type of intelligence that is unique to us!”

5. “We’re not stupid. At all. I’m currently in medical school and most of the people here are S’s. Taking things in in a literal, concrete way does not equal incompetence. Personally, I don’t want someone philosophizing about my heart when it stops beating on the operating table. I want someone with a quick reaction time there to save my life.”

6. “ESFPs are definitely energetic and love to let lose and party, but while they’re typically described as the life of the party, I think they’re really just very social people. Rather than being the center of attention at big parties, I’m usually all over the place having one-on-one or group conversations with as many people as possible because I love talking to people, catching up with friends, and getting to know new people. We do enjoy the spotlight, but it’s not all about that or about partying- it’s the genuine love of communicating and connecting with as many people as possible (and that doesn’t mean having lots of acquaintances versus a few close friends- ESFPs take their friendships very seriously, and because of their social nature, they have many close friends who are more than just acquaintances).”

7. “Though we thrive off social interaction, we aren’t the type that has to be around people 24/7. I really enjoy spending time alone and I’m also completely comfortable doing things like eating out or walking somewhere by myself.”

8. “We’re not all slutty/promiscuous. I’m a serious relationship girl and I always have been. Just because we love people doesn’t mean we all sleep around.”

9. “I feel like ESFP’s have been painted as unintelligent party animals. It’s true that I don’t love theological ideas or debating about current politics but ESFP’s are smarter than they let off. We have a unique social and emotional intelligence that is different from other types. I’m very aware of my surroundings and am often the first one to pick up on someone’s emotions (maybe even before they have processed those feelings themselves!) and I can react quickly to diffuse many uncomfortable situations because of this. I would rather be socially smart than book smart any day.”

10. “We’re really not that shallow!”

11. “ESFPs are some of the most creative people you’ll ever meet but we’re never really given credit for that. There’s a stereotype that all artistic and creative people are these tortured introverts but that’s not always true. I paint for a living and I’m a HUGE extrovert!”

12. “ESFPs are often cast as attention hungry and self centered people. Although we love to party and don’t mind the attention, ESFPs truly want to make OTHERS happy and will often put other people’s needs and wants above their own in order to do so.”

13. “We may not show it but our feelings get hurt really easily. Even though we seem really confident, we take personal jokes to heart and don’t always brush things off very easily. Please play nice with us!”

14. “We are NOT selfish people! Yes we like the spotlight and that might make us seem full of ourselves but really we just like to make people laugh and make them happy. So many of us grow up to be social workers and counsellors and teachers, etc. At the end of the day we really just love people and want to help them!”