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Thanks for the assist, ADVISING IS HARD! :C-Engineer Dave

Work on yourself, and on loving yourself first, the results MAY BE SURPRISING. Give yourself reason to feel good about yourself. And again, I reiterate, don’t put her on a pedestal. She’s a human, not a statue.I’m rooting for you, so if you have more specific questions, send them to my personal blogopage. This is my Wheelhouse!Keep rockin',- Engineer Dave

I maintain the physical uplinks on the floor of the Atlantic ocean so Shark Momma can communicate and send files back and forth with M.O.D., so I guess in this context, “Network”. She has the capacity to communicate telepathically via subspace, but the NSA is monitoring that now too, so that’s why I came in. Oh, I’m on the list now, aren’t I? *thumbs nose*"Recording" as well, since we’ve started the Fairy Shark Mother channel on YouTube! There is more video goodness on the way, by the way, so stay tuned for that, chums!My areas of expertise are pretty varied, so I’ll accept any challenge I can wrap my mind around.- Engineer Dave

Now, your external monologue (your actual voice) is yours alone, even if it may sometimes does have trouble effectively communicating what you want to say because awkwardness. Use it to talk things out with a friend, parent or even yourself because verbalising what you’re experiencing may allow you to better analyze your situation. You can even sometimes disarm an illogical, intrusive thought simply by saying it aloud and letting the part of your brain that handles speech hear how illogical it is.As for re-attaching to reality, perhaps try a hike. I always find that a long walk in nature has a fantastic way of grounding me when I get stressed.I’m not sure if this has anything at all to do with your issue, but I do wish you peace. Let us know if this helps.- Engineer Dave

I love most things mechanical, but aircraft are definitely not among them. I mean, I love the form and idea of “aircraft”, but I have a great deal of difficulty wrapping my head around the idea of being at 600 mph at 40,000ft; there’s a lot of force involved. The numbers get wacky.Absolutely bring things to occupy yourself; when I fly (and it’s not often) I bring my journal and write observations about the world and the people around me. A great way to avoid being sucked into your fear is if you can engage in something that requires active use of your mind; your provided in-flight entertainment choices may be insufficient to ward off anxiety, so pack some apps or a handheld console if you have one. Some more recent aircraft models even have seat-back USB & AC charging ports, so pack cables if your flight is going to be a lengthy one. (Pack them anyway, they’re cables.)For nausea, I would recommend Ginger capsules or Gravol; you’ll thank me if you do find that you’re prone to airsickness.Seeing the ground drift away is going to be a totally foreign experience, but your window has a shade you can close if it’s frightening. I try to arrange for an aisle-seat because it kind of unnerves me to have a big eyeful of WAAAY DOWN THAR.Finally, know that there are tens of thousands of flights like yours taking off and landing every day without incident. The odds of a mechanical failure leading to any sort of accident are minimal. Smart women and men work diligently inspecting every component to ensure the airworthiness of the craft people fly in; the airline industry would be totally unsustainable if they didn’t spend massive budgets maintaining their fleets. If planes were in anyway unreliable to fly, no-one would; industry collapses. It’s just bad business!So don’t get yourself too psyched out beforehand; it’s the absolute safest mode of motorized transport and you may find it to be exhilarating. Every time I’ve gone into a flight worrying about getting anxious, it’s always, always comes true.Hope your flight goes well! May the winds spirit you safely!- Engineer Dave

I have a friend who is bisexual and she maintains a polyamorous relationship with her boyfriend and her girlfriend. Seperately, so I’m not sure if that’s still in the realm of ‘polyamory’, but the two she’s involved with are completely fine with the set-up because they acknowledge that they can satisfy needs the other can’t.It doesn’t make you a monster, either. Polyamorous feelings/polyamory are completely fine. Keep things above the board if you do want to explore them, though; otherwise that’s called “cheating” and not-so-good. Very unsharklike.You should try talking to your girlfriend about how you feel; I doubt any harm can come of bringing it up if it’s bothering you. Communication and keeping things out in the open is so important for any relationship.- Engineer Dave

Love can be fickle and sometimes it can take a while for someone’s feelings to become clear in their own mind; during this time you should ABSOLUTELY NOT press the issue or force anything. Respect her wishes and continue being a cool guy; she’ll be appreciative of the space and time to think. She may in time change her mind, but don’t try to change it for her; it has a funk of desperation that is highly unattractive.You can be sad for now, but don’t let it hamper your friendship. In the end, if you two remain mere friends, you should be happy with that; if the relationship did advance and end up going awry, you could have potentially lost her entirely.Additionally, I would highly suggest looking elsewhere for romantic companionship. Dave had a very good friend he knew for 10 years that wanted to pursue a relationship; he has now not spoken with her since 2009 and wishes every day that she was still in his life. Don’t let that happen to you, kiddos.- Engineer Dave

If you’re throwing up a lot, you’re likely also lacking some of the essential nutrients necessary to keep your neurochemistry in-check; be sure to keep your stores of potassium and sodium adequate. If you can stomach it, try a banana and something light and salty. I sometimes get hangovers and a banana with some sports drink or saltines will usually put me back on the rails.If the nausea in the morning is bad, keep some saltines on your nightstand to chomp on when you wake up, and foods high in starch during the day will help keep your stomach from accumulating too much nasty bio-slime.Ginger has been said to help, but it’s not something I’ve used personally, so I can only recommend it through hearsay. M.O.D.’s herbalism skills far surpass my own.If you get nauseous during the day when you’re out and about, stop and find something far on the horizon to focus on; it should anchor you enough to keep that ‘spinning’ feeling from overwhelming you.STAY HYDRATEDIf it’s been five weeks without cessation, the last thing you want to do is exacerbate your condition by getting further overheated or dehydrated.I hope this helps and that your doctor can help you get your feet back on the ground! Much love!- Engineer Dave