#easilyoffended

There will be potty language.  And there will be no straddling the fence to appease both sides.  So, read at your own risk.  But, absolutely always feel free to respond and engage in discussion!

When I got into this show, I fell down the rabbit hole like everyone else, and watched con footage and interviews and became more invested than I ever have in a show because of all the (perceived) incredible positivity and kindness reflected from the cast to the SPN Family and vice versa.  I had never seen anything like it.  And I was so impressed with this fandom and proud to be a part of it that I do something I rarely do - I gushed about it to friends.  Even though I knew they'd give me shit.  Because we think we're too cool for school or something.  I don't know.

My love for this show and fandom eventually led me to Tumblr and the actors Twitter feeds.  I went full fangirl.  I thought, "Yay!  Other people who enjoy this amazing show.  Gifs!  Funnies!  Fanfics!  Art!  Support!"  And there is that, undoubtedly....but there is also this seedy underbelly that gets far more attention that it merits.  And I have become so disillusioned and angered by the shit I see here on the regular, not to mention Twitter.... that I feel like I need to disengage from following both (SPN-wise), so I don't burst a fucking capillary.

Before I do that.... to the handful of "fans" that have caused a Twitter uproar and instigated shortsighted and nasty smear campaigns regarding:

1.  Jareds inappropriate joke

2.  Mark Pellegrino and William Shatner defending Jared over some other Twitter bullshit.  They didn’t cause the initial offense, they merely defended their buddy against all the flamers....which, apparently is not allowed for these specific individuals.  They’re so evil.  How dare they have a human response to seeing their friend get charbroiled online.  It’s like they think they’re real people....

3.  Jensen supporting his FRIEND JDM when he was harassed and lambasted on Twitter and Instagram for wearing a Blue Lives Matter t-shirt.  *Also, see #2*

4.  Jensens retweet of Pellegrinos very nice message welcoming India to the SPN Family (flooding Jensens feed with demands that he not support his castmate and friend because Mark stood up to them or because they don't agree with Marks ideology.  Way to take something positive and turn it ugly, BTW.  Sorry, India.  Truly.  I'm secondhand cringing over here.)  *Also, see #2*

5.  *See previous rants on this page*

Can you please fuck off already?   I hear Antarctica is nice this time of year, and that knitting is a great way to take your mind off things and meditate.  I might follow my own advice, in fact.  But stay the hell away from my yurt.  I am stabby when it comes to you people.

There are always going to be people who feel compelled to stir up a lot of shit over anything these guys say and do, and they generally also apply that rule to most things in life, I'm guessing.  And I know opinions are like assholes (everyone's got one), but really, there seem to be a handful of folks that LIVE for the drama around here. Get a grip.  Be useful.  Because what you seem to enjoy doing - Tearing down public figures in order to promote your own agenda, and making threats and accusations and spreading them like cancer?  It's not productive. It's toxic.   With regards to THE JOKE:

I don't want to tell the joke.  TELL IT!  No, my jokes are all inappropriate.  TELL it!  Nah... TELL IT ANYWAY, WE DON'T CARE!  *Tells joke*  *Sees personal integrity torpedoed and potentially damaged career/legacy due to an influx of online articles based on a handful of tweets by reactionary "fans" who probably weren't even there*  Nice set-up, people.

Neither one of these guys is or has ever been anything but gracious to fans, not to mention caring and supportive.  That's why fans from all over the world come to see them and share their personal stories of hardship with this cast.  And they are certainly not proponents of rape culture.  

These conventions are for adults, by adults.  And if you bothered to even watch a sampling of con footage of these guys, your delicate sensibilities would probably be overwhelmed by the sexually charged and deeply inappropriate things that get said BY some fans TO these guys.  But here's the thing, these actors take it in stride and treat their fans like friends.  And these cons are very intimate and personal, open and extremely funny.  Is content inappropriate sometimes?  Yes, thank Chuck. THAT'S USUALLY WHAT MAKES IT FUNNY.   

Have you ever watched a comedy routine?  How do you handle dark humor?  Can you?  If you can't?  Don't watch.  Don't play Cards Against Humanity either.  In fact....turn the internet off and spend time around real people.  Build up some tolerance.  Take your newfound tolerance to a domestic violence shelter and volunteer your time.  Immerse yourself in a new culture.  Read a few books.  Educate yourself a bit and grow wiser.  Pick your battles and fight for what's right.  Not for what you "think" is right for Twit hits.

And you know what?  If you're the type of person who is going to go on a witch hunt that results in these guys having to share the same platform with guys like Weinstein and Spacey, with potentially irreversible damage done to their professional and personal lives over something like THIS?   Congratulations.  You've become the thought police.  You're demonizing people who have done a tremendous amount of good in the world around them via campaigns that stem from a desire to reach out to their fandom and support of people in crisis, particularly women, over a lame joke that Jared and especially Jensen, didn't feel was appropriate to share in the first place.  These are genuinely kind and decent men, maybe do some more background research and check your motivation before you irrevocably damage someones well-being and livelihood.  

And because I don’t know any of your names or whereabouts, I can’t actually fuck up your life, can I?  And even if I could?  Why on earth would I??  Anonymity’s great, though....isn’t it?  We can go online and sit on our own virtual Mount Olympus, raining down accusations, judgments and sentences with minimal effort, foresight or concern for the ramifications of our actions.  

And Jared is a prime example of that sometimes.  I’m sorry to say, because he is a good dude, but he’s guilty of some of the same flamebroiling of people that you excuse yourselves from in the name of self righteousness.  The difference is - you can hide behind your anonymity.  He can’t.  And I’m down with calling people on their bullshit behavior (clearly), and Jared has had it coming a few times, but THIS?  This is ridiculous.

Since you seem to be fond of extreme responses, I could make the comparison that encouraging, no....demanding that someone do something that they don't want to do, and then shaming them for it when they do what you've asked? That's REAL textbook abuse.  Chew on that for a minute.

Congrats again, because when you search either of their names, that's the FIRST thing that comes up.  "Jared Padalecki and Jensen Ackles made a rape joke".  The joke in and of itself doesn't and shouldn't negate all the good they've put out in the world, but in the eyes of the general public outside the fandom?  NOW it does.  THAT'S what people now see.  

It's amazing how a 7 word joke can lead to online character assassination that tears down over a decade of good works.  And I wouldn't blame them one bit for shutting down future cons and/or reducing their conversation with fans to subject matter that strictly pertains to the show. 

And if you have stated any iteration of "I will no longer be a fan or watch this show because of these horrible meanies"... GOOD.  FUCKING.  RIDDANCE.   It would make the SPN Family a much better place to be if ya'll and your other easily offended brethren who can dish it out, but can't take it, would fuck off to parts unknown to fixate on something else and leave us in peace.  

3. ‘I get easily offended’

I don’t mean in the response to being called nasty names or fighting sense, but rather situations such as ‘being accused of something I didn’t do’ or ‘being dismissed like I mean nothing’.

I have self-esteem issues that feel it when someone treats me like I’m unimportant, even when I technically am because I’m not necessarily involved in whatever is going on. I think nearly everyone likes to feel important – it would make my whole day if someone acknowledged my work or something I’ve contributed to a group. Even if they just give me a brief mention, I will most likely take it to heart and remember it for years. This also happens when people disregard me in the same way. I will be hurt and even if I address it with the person who caused it, it will take me a long time to recover, even if I never show it on the outside.

I get offended when people brag about things that they may or may not know I don’t have (non-materialistically), which is understandable, to be fair to myself, but it hurts a lot when it’s something like “having a loving and close family”. They might not even be bragging, but to me, they might as well be. I get jealous of happy families and close friends. I don’t hold it against the person who says those things, but I do get jealous. I do have a family (parents, stepparents, a sibling, grandparents [not including the family I have made with my partner]), but it is broken and there’s no love for me there, we’re more like acquaintances. I do have friends, but I could never tell any of them that I love them. The idea of telling anyone except my partner that I love them is such a foreign concept to me that it nearly makes me nauseous. My emotional barriers are far too strong for that kind of interaction. They would never say they love me either, because I truly believe that they don’t, I think they like having me to talk to at a nice, comfortable “friend” status distance. I have never asked, however, and I probably never will, because I don’t want to make them uncomfortable.

As I mentioned in part 2, I was bullied both at school and at home when I was young. Therefore, ‘name-calling’ has little to no effect on me. I consider whatever argument the other person may have with me invalid the second they resort to personal attacks on me. Ok, yes, heard that before, moving swiftly on.

EASILY OFFENDED Dwight L. Moody (1837-1899)

“Sometimes I am amazed to see how little it takes to drive all peace and comfort from some people. some slandering tongue will readily blast it. But if we have the peace of God, the world can not take that from us. It can not give it; it can not destroy it. We have to get it from above the world; it is peace which Christ gives. "Great peace have they which love Thy law, and nothing shall offend them." Christ says "blessed is he, whosoever shall not be offended in Me." Now, if you will notice, wherever there is a Bible taught Christian, one who has the Bible well marked, and daily feeds upon the Word by prayerful meditation, he will not be easily offended.”