#dysfunctionality

I have heard and faced these comments alot. When an individual becomes emotionally aware about how abuse and trauma are being spread within the household, they automatically turn into the black sheep - the so called outcast - because they don't easily comply with the injustice.

Acknowledging that abuse is occurring within your own home is hard enough but realizing that it's being done by those who you grew up with and assumed to love you unconditionally - your family - has been one of the hardest facts to come to terms with.

Albus: You threatened me not to get in your way.

Gellert: You know I didn't mean that, I could never hurt you.

Albus: You sent my nephew after me to kill me!

Gellert: Exactly, because I could never hurt you.

Albus:.....

Therapist: ....so, Mister Grindelwald, do you want Mister Dumbledore to join you or do you want him dead?

Gellert: Of course, I want him to join me. But he refuses everytime I ask.

Albus: Maybe that's because you plan to overtake the magical world and kill every Muggle you set eyes on!

Therapist: We've been through this; blaming is neither helpful nor productive.

Gellert: You divorced me in front of the entire magical world, in front of that Scamander boy!

Therapist: Who is Scamander?

Albus: (sighs) Nobody.

Gellert: Like hell! I see the way he looks at you!

Albus: You really have the nerve to be jealous now?!

Gellert: (huffs) Oh please, that boy is a joke compared to me.

Albus: At least, he doesn't kill people!

Therapist: Again, with the blaming! Why don't we talk about your fear of losing him, Mister Grindelwald?

Gellert: Fear? I fear nothing! I will rule the magical world very soon.

Albus: See? Delusional!

Therapist: And would ruling the magical world make you happy, Mister Grindelwald?

No, I chose forgiveness for me. I did it for me.

It is not in my nature to carry hatred with me. I am not that person anymore because I choose to be better. I choose to be free of that burden. I am a victim of childhood abuse, both physical and psychological. The triangulation to isolate sisters and gaslighting to the point of complete loss of self will not work anymore.

I say no and draw a line in the sand. No more.

The people who were supposed to love and protect me were my abusers. They don’t even fully understand what they did or why it was wrong. The semantics don't matter.

I just wonder how many of you actually come from dysfunctional families...!

— Michael I. Bennett MD and Sarah Bennett, F*ck Feelings