#drop hints

Drop little hints.

It seems like part of the reason that so many “accepting” people - parents, teachers, friends - are upset or unsupportive when someone close to them comes out is that they are surprised. This doesn’t justify being unkind when someone comes out, but can explain it a little.

This might not be the case for you, but one thing that can help is to drop hints now and then so that they are more likely to expect and understand your coming out. For example: changing bits of your appearance (new haircut, different clothing, etc), wearing more rainbows/your pride flag, or saying little things in a conversation. There are unfortunately plenty of stereotypes surrounding the LGBTQ community, which can turn into indicators of someone’s gender/sexuality. You are under no obligation to act like or use these stereotypes.

If you are in an unsafe situation, DON’T COME OUT or even drop hints. This is a guide for people who are sure or mostly sure they are in a supportive environment - not everyone is in this place, and that’s ok. Never pressure someone to come out either.

except my damn dad. whAT DO YOU WANT, MY DUDE. TELL ME WHAT YOU WANT. He has no wishlist on steam, hasn’t talked about a single new game he wants, he JUST got new work pants and a new belt, he has a new-ish wallet, doesn’t wear watches... 

Mom got him a new desk chair and a headset but I can’t find anything else he wants. It’ll probably just have to be those, and I’ll claim the  headset since I helped her find it. Girlfriend wanted to know what he wanted and it’s like...