#doitforbobby

i’ve been dealing w/a lot of anxiety l8ly!!! wooooO!OO!!! it’s definitely 100% abt uni starting in less than a month!!! jeez!!! but it’s fine, everything is fine. everything will b fine, esp if u use these self-care tips :-)

go 2 slp early. haha, good one, ik. but 4 real dudes - i was upset 1 time, texting my friend abt being upset, n he goes, “u always text me when ur upset which is always like 2 in the morning” n i was like “dude i think ur onto smthin” n he was like “yea i know.” l8 nights can make u feel lonely n afraid, n cause u to get less slp.

write what ur feelin! it can b by hand or by computer - i type fast so computer is nice when u just have sooo many feelings n u needta get them out right away ! this is called “stream of consciousness” where u just write whatever pops to ur mind n hopefully smthin will pop up that makes u aware n calm.

cut out social media ! idk abt u guys but it’s summer so i have a lot of time 2 b creepin ppl on social media n feelin fomo n just generally feelin like shit. soooo i killed all my streaks, deleted my insta app. felt gr8; 10/10 would recommend

laugh!! do a hahahaha!!! i luv watchin tv n youtube videos - n obviously it’s not productive if u do this 4 hrs a day but just watch things that make u smile :-) i’m particularly prone to 1 night 2 days rn but that’s a korean show soooo u find what works 4 u boo <3

msg some1 u love. sm1 who makes u feel safe, treasured, n important. i say this every time but u can msg me if u want to talk. i think it’s rlly important 2 not let things get bottled up. bcos then explosion n that’s usually quite bad.

slight alternative: hug some1 u love. smtimes, ur not rdy to talk abt smthing that has hurt u. hugging sm1 helps - for 7 seconds or longer (idk y, some science) !!

i’ve been having a typical teen existential crisis l8ly so wooooooooo so i’ve been thinking about a lot of things so here is my general advice i have learned in my 17 years of livin’ :-)

SKIN IS JUST SKIN!!! every1 gets pimples once in a while n it is a ok a ok a ok. iz just skin. just skin! iz ok.

holy cRAP u feel shit about urself b/c u feel insecure & jealous of someone over the internet!11!!1!!! holy cRAP me 2!!! take some time to regroup & remember what’s important. get off social media, take a walk, do what makes u happy. when u feel better, go back.

save ur moneh $$$$ life is expensive yo (esp uni holy hECK)

make the right choice. when ur debatin abt smthing, think 2 urself, “hmmmmmm... what’s the right choice?” & just do it. u will feel sm better i promise bb

b a person of their word. don’t b flakey. nobody likes flakiness. if ur not a person of ur word, ur kind of an asshole. u can’t b trusted. idk i h8 flaky ppl

where u go to uni/what u major in does not define ur life most ppl change careers anyway :-)

trust people until they give u a reason not to. aft that b skeptical.

find a reason 2 keep u going. it doesn’t have 2 keep u going 4 ur entire life. a tv show on monday’s makes u look forward 2 monday’s? wonderful. fantastic. excited 2 go to school just 2 c ur friends? great. keep that close 2 ur heart.

take time 2 grow who u r. when u grow who u r, and expand, u will not b threatened when u lose one aspect. b open 2 change :-)

write & take pics of everythanggg

take care of urself. obvy easier said than done. but it’s the lil things that add up, yk? get enough sleep. wash ur hair. clean ur room. lil things.

u r never alone. ever ever ever. never. there is someone who cares 4 u. “but kai no there’s not! no1 cares 4 me” hi i do. i care 4 u. i suck shit at responding to messages but if u r ever in a dire moment n u think no1 cares for u i want u to remember i care for u.

b grateful. b appreciative. b thankful every day.

ur best does not mean ignoring every aspect of ur life for that 1 thing

b cautious when overreacting abt things on social media. eg they don’t text u back right away, they didn’t like ur ig pic whatever. b wary. maybe they just didn’t c it, dude.

recognize that wanting 2 tear other ppl down says smthing abt u. doesn’t mean ur a bad person. it means smthing in u is damaged. don’t tear ppl down. bring urself up :-)

u hv so many years ahead of u that r bigger n brighter than anything u could possibly imagine

let things go

u can change ur life rn. progress, not perfection. progress.

aim 4 progress, not perfection. aim 2 make 2day’s u better than yesterday’s u and that’s it. not better than anybody else. ur only competition is u.

i’m a month in my sr year and i feel like i hv learned sm stuff in my hs career so this is the stuff i hv learned n hopefully i will help u 2:

do your grades matter rn? rlly think abt it. do ur gr 9 grades matter? ur gr 10? ur gr 11? gr 12? this varies depending on country n education system n ur own goals etc. ik for me i was a lil stressed out freshman but i live in canada so gr 9 grades don’t matter at ALL for university apps

obvy that being said u build on the knowledge u learn in the younger yrs but like the quantitative number doesn’t matter for us

u don’t need 2 join a club or a sport but u can find friends this way but u r in no way obligated to

but smtimes when u have an activity to look forward to it can rlly help w/ur mood if u struggle w/sadness like me

stop comparing urself 2 other ppl. u will meet so many smart n beautiful n talented n kind ppl in high school and in this gr8 big world but that does not mean u r not smart or beautiful or talented or kind. u r all of those things n more bc u r a unique combination of traits and sunshine.

taking care of urself physically is important for mental health. that means getting adequate sleep n good food. that sounds redundant. but when my sleep schedule is messed up i don’t function as well as i could normally, n my mood goes wild. that’s crappy. i don’t like it.

these r the growing up yrs and that means u could b moving out of ur house soon. pls pls plz appreci8 ur family. they love u so much. they work so hard to feed u and clothe u and support u. life is hard smtimes n busy but carve out sm time to spend w them, or just do lil things like laugh @ ur dad’s crappy jokes or help ur mom out.

find a reason 2 keep going. sad truth but so many ppl ik have contemplated suicide during high school. u need a reason to keep going when u literally want to kill urself bc of school or boys or whatever.

use an agenda. rlly rlly n truly use it. write down ur entire life in there. u get so so busy as u grow up. ppl say u need to manage ur time but i think u need to protect it bc u will hv so many things to do. u need 2 choose what u want to do.

mind ur own business. gossip is fun. ik. but it’s rlly not worth it. u can rlly hurt smone’s feelings :(

take joy in the little things. i want u 2 know that it is so ez to go through hs hating ur life and hating everything but that’s honestly so exhausting. so so exhausting. idc if it’s a guilty pleasure tv show or a bath on sunday evenings. b gr8ful n appreciative. b positive. it can literally change ur life.

i went thru a lot of hard times in high school. i suffered a lot mentally and my grades suffered as a result of it. my senior year has been the happiest time of my life so far, and my grades have also been the best. please take care of urself in high school. it can be hard, but u can get through it.

well poop. i’ve been going through a crappy situation for the past few days, and honestly, it’s draining me. i hate it. it’s blocking me from doing the things i want to do. i don’t think i can conquer it completely rn, but what i can do is prevent it from living my life!!! so here is my guide 2 how i am gna do dis:

simple things

i’m kind of at that point where i don’t wna do anything bc i am just so down but this is sO dumb literally 0/10 would recommend

take a shower!! it is so calming and metaphorical like u rinse dirt off ur body n u rinse dirt off ur mind yk

get out of ur bed

make sure ur body is in tip top physical shape aka

eat

drink

make sure ur temp is right (esp bc summer!!! my lord it is hot)

stop playing dat sad music i recommend music that u looOooOoOove (4 me it is kpop idk sm of it is trash ik but like it just gets me feeling pumped~~)

cheer up // twice

bang bang bang // big bang

dope // bts

pls get out of ur bed. ik it is warm. ik it is comfy. ik u feel invincible there. ik u say to urself that u can get out of bed later. bc u could. but just get out and then stay out of it just to prove to me that u can, ok. bc if u stay there 2 long u do nothing and nothing happens

cheering up

do something u RLLY like n that makes u smile a lot. 4 me this is reading chick lit like holy crap sophie kinsella gives me warm n fuzzy feels (i rec all her books bc they r just warm fuzzies ok)

(if ur crappy situation is a RL situation that u need 2 fix): ignore it for a bit. just a bit. idk how long is good for u. but u need to cool down, get ur spirits back up b4 u can deal w/it properly, ok? ok.

go 4 a walk. i find that even if ur in a crappy mood at the beginning of a walk being in nature can help. i mean smtimes i get super annoyed bc mosquitos bugs heat whtvr but yk just get sm fresh air

hey do smthing productive!! ik it is summer n no schoolwork but maybe u have sm schoolwork n just take a tiny step towards doing it or update ur resume or do smthing productive it can distract u + make u feel accomplished = win win 

actually fixing ur crappy situation

b sure that u r calm now and u can think things through logically and reasonably

ok. brainstorm possible solutions. write down what u r willing 2 compromise on, and what u r not, aka rule out sm solutions

find a solution, now do it!

important: rlly forgive. rlly move on. don’t slap band aid. if u r in crappy mood, U r the loser!!! u want to win. u want to go on w/ur life bc u r a star.

do not be mean. u hv right 2 feel crappy!!! but find strength in urself 2 forgive, 2 be generous, 2 be kind. 

later on reflect on what u hv learned in a lil journal or talking to a friend or smthing :) :) :)

lil reminder things (seem contradictory; r not)

taking the time to mope n b sad n dwell on it is beneficial bc u need that time to accept n move on BUT my friend u cannot linger 4 too long bc then it starts eating u

smtimes u need sm time to sort of mull a crappy situation over in ur mind and get on w/ur life b4 u do anything abt it just to hv that distance so u can b more calm n logical

u can bounce back frm ANYTHING literally u r such a star i know things r hard 4 u rn but u can do it my lil star

i am a rlly low-energy lazy person n my trick 4 forcing myself to do things smtimes is i imagine i am pikachu like in the anime abt to do a thundershock and i imagine myself getting all this energy and abt to go pikaaCHUUUUU and then i make myself do it it’s like my pep talk ya

ily ur a star

my inbox is always open for ranting help and pep talks

i’ve kinda bcome a lowkey tumblr kid and that means writing emotional things @ 2am in my notebook and notebooks mean NOTEBOOKS and there’s a lot of diff things to do in journals that r sooo muchhhh funnn omg so here r my favourite ideas:

dream journal

i don’t rlly dream often tbh which is why it’s such a big deal for me when i do and i’ve been writing down my dreams whenever i have them which is SuPEs good bc the other day i had a dream i was d8ng bobby n it was so cute omg fml

if u do it daily, it’s rlly fun to look back at!!!!!

recipe journal

i’m like apparently a big kid now n that means cooking n ya. it sucks. i h8 cooking so much but i gta do it. perks r i like making cakes n that can go in ur recipe journal ALSO!!

if u have fam traditional recipes that u can’t remember bc ur not a cook yet n u forget things (HOW DOES MY MOM REMEMBER 92374283749 RECIPES) here is the place 2 put them :)))))

health journal

trying 2 do this thing currently where i don’t get fat unfit sO this is nice

track down ur water intake, ur meals, workouts, visits to doc, any meds mayb, health card, etc.

writing down ur meals helps 4 me so i don’t eat anything unhealthy bc i don’t like writing down that i had 5 chocolate cakes (which i do on occasion anyway but..)

short journal

a.k.a one sentence journal but one sentence is kinda short

4 those who want to keep a journal but not write 4 028394023849 minutes a day

this is neat

how i would do this is u write for like 3 minutes or however long time-wise or however long word-wise or sentence-wise

but just keep it short! n snappy! :)))))))))))

art journal

these r soOOoOOOooOooOOOOOOOO cool but unfort i’m not tumblr enough to keep an artsy hippy one aka i suck @ art but u prob don’t!!! also who cares it’s UR journal

(i care. that’s y i don’t have 1.)

so ya

u basically draw

or doodle

or r hip

but u keep it in one place

n it’s hip

smtimes i feel like grace helbig but i’m not.

:((((((

reading journal

this would b cool if i had the time/effort/energy/wasn’t lazy

idk if u all have seen MUGGLEHUSTLE on twitter but they read harry potter and did commentary while reading it n i think that’s supes cool y’all

writing it in a journal seems a bit annoying

so i’d go w twitter

but if u can write it super quick n short n snappy i think it’d be cool to read back ur thoughts when u were reading a book 4 the first time

time journal

idk this is such a tumblr-y thing but BASICALLy u just pick a time of day (eg. 7:23 am) n write ur thoughts for that one minute

u can cheat n go longer if u want but not rlly don’t do that cheating bad

i think it would b nifty

bullet journal

we all knew this 1 was cming!!!!

but basically it’s like a super hip agenda where u customize everything

pros: u customize everything

cons: u customize everything (aka u could have a bad aesthetic!!!)

but it’s good i like it bc it’s me customizing everything and that way i can just complain about myself instead of a company

n it’s good for like task-y people (to-do lists and such)

tbh idk if i even use mine properly but there r hella lotta posts on this :):)

journal

where u write anything u want

combination of all above if u want

or just a diary

idk

journals r lovely

i hope u start one