Spy on Your Guy? - Don't Bother to Try!
If your instinct is to reach for your guy’s cell phone when he is out of the room, to check and see who is has been texting, who he has called, and who has called him, then the relationship is carrying a huge RED FLAG! You should never ever feel a hint of doubt about where your guy’s loyalties lie, and if you do- then he isn’t the one for you! If your guy is giving you mixed messages by being affectionate and attentive one minute, and then distant and unresponsive another minute, you may quite rightly harbor doubts about what he is doing and thinking. You may feel inclined to “spy” on him or “stalk” him a bit. That behavior is needy, clingy and a huge turn off! Avoid the temptation to behave like that! Trust me when I tell you that this is a very unhealthy dynamic. If you have any reason at all to doubt your boyfriend’s loyalty towards you then please pull back now. Pull way way back. That means NO texting him. NO calling him. NO emailing him. It means that when he calls you, DO NOT always answer and do not immediately respond to his texts. If he is into you he will take the cue that you are less available and less interested and he will come forward and pursue you with all of his wonderful male energy. But if in fact he is less interested than before, he will be relieved to feel you are in his orbit less. This is the best and only way to find out where you stand, short of confronting him - which also makes you appear suspicious, insecure and needy. If you feel the need to spy on your guy, distance is the route you must try!
