(sorry if this is long/rambly we are not good at articulating ourselves/gen)
So one of our ex friends would mention multiple times that they really wanting to use shi/hir pronouns and intersex exclus labels(like dionyfluid) even though at the time they thought they were perisex which always made us extremely uncomfortable.
Then one day when we had talked a bit about one of our intersex variations (NCAH) they started asking us some basic questions about it and during that convo they immediately started self diagnosing with NCAH and within minutes update their pronouns to add shi/hir which caught us off guard bc they hadn’t done any research into it besides asking us a few basic questions and didn’t even know NCAH was a thing until we mentioned having it??
They also then never mentioned anything to do with being intersex again and got in some arguments with us bc they were being weird abt stuff (for example they tried to argue to us that in the omegaverse all alphas/omegas are intersex bc they have “both male and female traits” which just….wow????)
Whole thing just feels really intersexist looking back on it now but idk if it counts as intersexism :/
(note:we firmly believe self diagnosing as intersex is very valid but this situation was just weird)
Nothing wrong at all with self diagnosis. We ourselves self diagnosed with our variations since getting diagnosis is damn near impossible at this stage in our life (PCOS, PMDS, questioning of having some sort of CAH) but it really seems that regardless of if that friend is intersex or not, they haven't done enough research in general and seem to only be interested in the "fun" side of things (as far as neopronouns and microlabels go).
And, on the side of A/B/O. If anything, if someone ISN'T bigenital (? I believe that's the term, though I haven't engaged with omegaverse content in a long time, correction is welcome) that person would be considered intersex because intersex variations are literally about having traits outside of the norm of perisex ideas of sex...
All in all, I hope they figure out who they are, learn more about intersexuality outside of our labels and terms that are exclusive to us, and engage in the community in a meaningful and respectful way.