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IT'S SUCH A FUNNY PART OF THE BOOK

its beautiful it makes me tear up whenever i think of it 🥹

Sounded familiar so I looked it up, and yeah I have that user blocked. I followed them for a hot second because they made some really good posts about the life of Marsha Hunt, but as I saw how they started talking about other 1960s "Stones muses" (as people call them) and saying really sexist and unfair things (especially stigmatizing drug addiction in the case of Anita and Marianne) I was like... mmm ok I'm out. And I blocked just to ensure I'd never see them in the tags again, since the only tag I follow on here is Marianne.

I'm not like an insecure stan who can't bear to see my favs criticized. But when it comes to Marianne, I just see no justice or catharsis you can have by tearing her down. She's already largely forgotten and erased in favor of her ex, reduced in memory to an angel with big tits who turned junkie plaything. That's already how most Stones fans who even know her name see her. 30 years after her book, people will just bring up her name to make a disgusting Mars Bar joke (that story was made up by a cop, but it's funnier to treat it as real). Meanwhile, just about everything she has done which is worth celebrating over her long career is neglected and underrated except by the cult fans. That stands true for any other creative working woman the Stones associated with when they were young. It's extremely true for Marsha Hunt, too, who you don't see as much appreciation for on Tumblr, as relatively small as even Marianne's 'fandom' is. Ah, oh well. Someday I hope history will view these women with more dignity. Much of what they've suffered in the public eye is overlapping.

Thank you Ned, I love you always forever 💞💞💞💞🤗🙀🤪🐬 (I chose four consecutive recent emojis after my little hearts and decided these fit how I feel because I cannot put my emotions into words)

I just wanted to add that what's the worst about people not clarifying their intention and you having to do the work and start the conversation about their feelings is that ... They can just lie about it ?? As in pretending that no no !! it was just a friendly offer of course it's platonic when come on I know, you know, we all know here - and so it's just you left feeling like an idiot bc they kinda treat you like one

For me it's bigger than just oh they're shy and they try the ambiguous approach, because it feels like dishonesty to me - I literally can't trust that person's intentions any more and I'm always second guessing what they mean. It hits the hardest when it's a good friend :(

And of course when I tell friends about this type of predicament the first thing I hear is "Well are you sure that you would never want to date them?" lol what part of "I'm mad that they didn't straight up ask me out on a date cause now I can't just reject them" did you not understand ????

Sorry this has turned into another rant haha but it's nice to be able to talk to someone who understands. Anyways, stay strong !!!

You're right!!! You're right you're right. It's so cathartic for someone else to express all these problems I have with this. Because the reason it's so common for people to ask someone out this way is because it seems inoffensive and like it's not a big deal. But there's no reason to do it anyway!! It's not offensive or a big deal to just ask someone on a simple little date.

I guess for alloromantic/allosexual people this might be less of a bother, although idk your orientation anon so I'm not going to assume it's completely innocuous for anyone who isn't aroace like me. But for me I go through the world invisible, constantly assumed to be a straight woman or maaaaybe bi but always always assumed to be interested in men. And it's just such a fucking pain, it piles up. It wears me down overtime. I can't stand these little assumptions men make. That I'm interested in them, that I want to "hang out" w them on a date that isn't explicitly a date, that them interacting w me under false pretenses and not stating their intentions is just a little thing I have to move past. I hate it!!! I hate it so much!!!!!

Just! Ask! Me! On! A! Date!