#detransiton

(1h and 15 min vid, you can also listen to it on Spotify and Apple podcasts)

I can’t answer this question because each person’s reason for detransition tends to be deeply personal. Usually they expected something very different or the pressures of society etc became too much and it’s just easier. I have had moments where I have hurt so much from others not understanding me, from people close to me rejecting me, telling me this is the wrong choice—i understand why people detransition. This isn’t all fun and games and IG pictures. Transition is deeply personal. Their will be losses and gains, growth and pain and a lot changes not only physically but mentally and some people aren’t prepared for that.

How did I downplay anything or make anything "more palatable"?

What I did say is, detransitioners are not all cis people who thought they were trans and have deep regret and hate trans people for it. Most detransitioners are transgender people who are forced back into the closet, who need to stop transitioning for whatever reason. Sometimes they realize they're trans in a different direction. And guess what? There are detransitioners who realize their gender more accurately aligns with their agab AND STILL identify with being trans simply because they did transition. AND there are detransitioners who simply feel their gender shifted, that they were really trans but no longer are. AND most detransitioners love and support trans people, feel connected to the trans community regardless, yes even when they are actually cisgender..

Open your ears and listen to detransitioners beyond the ones you see gaining publicity. Because the public only wants to hear the horror stories.

1. Detransioned women being called “TERF”s by friends for questioning things they believed while transitioning, and deciding to take up the label tongue-in-cheek