well after ryan said that shannon was just an idealization of love and marriage i think it would be weird using that flowers bc itâs used for the 14th wedding anniversary since shannon asked for divorce
Hey Nonnie.
Why would that be weird?? I donât think I understand where you are coming from.
Shannon being an idealisation - or rather Eddie and Shannonâs relationship being an idealisation of what love and marriage are is exactly why that flower and it being somewhere around the 14th anniversary of their marriage is relevant. Shannon mightâve asked for a divorce, but they didnât actually get divorced - Eddie is a widower not a divorcee - so the anniversary still holds significance to him.
Also idealisation or not, Eddie is by nature a nester and someone who held true to his wedding vows - in fact the fact they never got divorced is a key part of things here - in Eddieâs mind itâs very possible he couldâve turned things around and made their relationship work - Eddie can keep playing over and over in his mind how Shannon said she needed to learn to be a mother before she could learn to be a wife (Iâm paraphrasing a little) - which if youâre Eddie you can very easily turn that into her needing some time and space and that they can learn to co parent together and that will lead to them reconciling - after all it happened before when he moved to LA - so why couldnât it happened before again - when theyâre both living in the same city and working to co parent together this time rather than being in different states.
And ddlm is about remembrance - in a positive way - itâs about celebrating the life that person had and the influence on others they had rather than being about mourning and the concept of loss - as a negative concept. So for me Eddie remembering Shannon through this specific holiday/festival - is actually a really lovely and good thing - itâs about him being able to see the relationship for what it was and celebrating what they had rather than trying to recapture something that he lost or that never really existed. Itâs acceptance and gratitude and acknowledgement and Eddie carrying those things with him rather than all the negative aspects of Eddieâs idealisation of his marriage - itâs about remembering the actual good rather than imagined and itâs about Eddie finding inner peace - for himself.














