@danakatherinejaneway replied to your post: I donât look at people and think, âI want... :
idk if you wanted any kind of response to this post but I found asexuality.org a useful resource when I was trying to figure out if i was ace so I just thought Iâd mention it
Responses are very helpful. :) I did head there and their FAQ did help me to put myself somewhere in a nebulous area of grayace/demi and possibly mostly aegosexual (at least I think, but you canât ever entirely âproveâ a negative so in absence of other evidence thatâs what works for me for now). So thank you!
@ciara-jane replied to your post: I donât look at people and think, âI want... :
Echoing the commenter above for sure. I am ace myself and thereâs nothing odd about it, though itâs difficult to make others understand sometimesâŚ
I didnât mean that there was anything inherently odd about it; I used âoddâ in the sense of ânot the normâ or ânot something most people can relate to.â I mean, it never really clicked with me until sometime last year that most people apparently donât think this way, or rather they do look at a person and think âyes, bed, please!â I mean, Iâd read it in adult romance books before and thought it weird, but I just assumed, âokay, itâs for effect, to make it clear sheâs attracted to him or whatever,â and I didnât take it seriously because I assumed it was an exaggeration of fiction. (I kind of shake my head at how naive I was back then.) And yeah, my ex didnât quite get it, thought to be fair I didnât even really get it at the time, either, and he wasnât ugly about it, just âthis is a problem, then, because I want more.â
