#cuttingties

Sometimes, moving forward means letting go—even when the past won’t let go of you. It’s never easy, but it’s necessary for your peace.

snip, snip, bitches 👋

So, I’m a Hellenic witch and over on Tik Tik there’s this tarot spread you can do in which you find the fool of the deck.The card under the fool is the issue or problem you’re facing, while the card above it is the solution to said problem. I decided to do it and got the Two of Cups and Death respectively, meaning I’m suffering from a lack of balance in my relationship with someone and that I know and that basically to solve it I need to cut ties with them or break away from them.

BUT HERES THE KICKER

I made another spread called the uncloaking spell to figure out WHO was the one I needed to cut off....and all of it pointed to my boyfriend...or my mother. Now, I care about my boyfriend deeply and can’t bear the thought of being the one to break his heart, but I also can’t just disown my own mother! they both have been causing issues for me lately and I don’t know what to do.....I think I just have to cite it even with both of them.

Is there someone in your life that you can’t seem to break away from? Do they keep intruding in your sanctuary or causing undue anxiety? Maybe they were once a friend, a co-worker, a neighbor, a lover but the bond you have now is unhealthy and damaging. It’s time to let it go, to severe what ties you together. 

1. Find two candles of any color and carve your name into one and the other person’s name into the other or signify which candle is whose with symbols or other words.

2. Take a piece of twine, string, thread etc and tie a candle on each end. I recommend using something you aren’t attached to and is easy to break/cut. Also be aware of how close to your wick the string is because it can catch on fire, use caution always!

3. Light both candles and recite the following spell 3 times. While growing confident in what you want as you repeat it each time visualize the anxiety, pain, and negativity this person has caused you dissipating. It may also help to visualize chains breaking.

*this can be modified to encompass different relationships, more people, deities etc* *bonus: Create a sigil of protection and fold it into a heart by your candle to create an amulet to protect you from that person’s attempt to reestablish the bond*

4. Let the candles burn out (safely) or as close to nothing as you can get it. Once it is out you can dispose of the debris in the garbage, bury it, flush it (within reason) or whatever you normally do with spell materials.

I’m driving to visit the source of my current happiness. My best friend, who is two weeks out of a toxic [x] year relationship, calls me and is about to confess something I'm not allowed to get upset over. I am then knocked over with the gut punching confession of her intention to sleep with the ex-boyfriend from High School who loved me first, in more ways than one, and who defines my memories of those four years. The boy who introduced me to this best friend and the boy who also misuses the term “best friend” with my “best friends” ex boyfriend. And this sort of scramble, confusion, and word-ception with “friend” shouldn't ever exist. 

Experiencing betrayal is a strange thing. But, in taking a step back, and analyzing the motive behind it has made me realize that we as humans all have different ways of coping with hard times in our lives. In these hard times we turn to these coping mechanisms to ease or eliminate our pain without care for the consequences. We are all selfish. Some may argue that it is okay to be selfish but at what point do we draw the line? Was my now ex-bestfriend too selfish when ending her toxic relationship? Is it too selfish to end a relationship you aren't happy with? Is it too selfish to find someone else directly after? What if that someone else is your ex’s best friend? How about if that someone else is your best friends ex? What if it where both, like in my situation? 

We are all entitled to our own decisions and our own selfishness, but we may forget that the people around us, who may be affected by them, have the same entitlement. My decision was to end that friendship, and with that came consequences- I don't have that friend to talk to anymore. We were friends because we had commonalities that helped us relate to each other and have fun together so in my decision to be selfish I lost that friendship and the benefits of it. But the difference between her and I is the fact that I took the situation in, thought about this very consequence and decided it was worth it.