#comformity

And no one else can do that : because then they would be projecting heir biases and their own life views onto you and you wouldn't be able to think for yourself, you're just going to take their work for it.

It's not easy because you're admitting to yourself that you have faults, flaws, that you are confusing and contradicting yourself.

Ref : Man's search for himself, Rolo May : picking good friends

Being in solitude, being with themselves and their thoughts in a very raw place is the most terrifying to hallow people. You cannot depend on external entities to complete yourself, you became frustrated because the puzzle is not fitting in order to feel fullfilled : it doesn't give me what i always thought they would give me.

Rolo believed that anxiety influenced our society, the ruler of the people. People are trying so hard not to be weird, to look like a normal human being among all of those human beings.

The opposite of courage is conformity : think about trying to be part of the people, trying to be the everyday person, trying to fit into society mentally. Beacause you don't want to miss out anything when you want to feek what others are felling. When you try and imitate how other people are because you think they have a better anything and everything.

All of these sorts of comformity will make you lose yourself because of trying to set yourself apart and figure out what it is that makes you : You choose to go to the easy route, but actually the more painful route of just comforming and being like everyone else.