What's in a Rule? (Obedience)
The act of letting someone else tie a cincture (rope belt) around me is indicative of the discipline of obedience. Not only does the cincture contain the knots that remind me of the way I'm living out my Baptism, it's a sign of simplicity. The leather belts of the 1200's often doubled as wallets and a place to carry weapons. The rope belt has neither purse nor sheath. Most days, I put my own belt on, but the first time I wore it, I submitted to Christ and let someone else tie the cincture as a reminder that I am accountable to others.
The discipline of obedience means acknowledging that I do not have all the answers, understanding, or insights. I need to be shaped and formed by the wisdom of others in relationship. Starting from the parents, caregivers, and teachers who help us step into the world, to the lifelong friendships, mentoring, and companionship, being guided by others is an important part of growing into our fullest selves.
Sometimes, obedience means paying attention to the Holy Spirit grabbing the dangling rope and giving a tug in a new direction, trusting that I'm in the hands of the One who has loved me before all time. In order to test the spirits and listen ever more carefully for God, I have accountability partners who can listen to my process and help me untangle and grasp exactly what God is up to.
My rule includes accountability to a Spiritual Director, a kind of trusted listener who helps me discern where God is showing up in my ministry, practice and prayer life; a reporting companion from the Order, so I can share with someone who is pursuing this life too; to the church I serve both through the office of the Bishop and through local lay leadership; and to my family members, since my promises affect their lives too. These multiple layers of accountability help me to learn, grow, and to be be ever more honest about how I am living out the promises I have made to God, all while living in the abundant joy of God's grace.
