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Un-fostered regrets.

Every skill or talent yet unfostered will remain dormant inside of you. Until that is, you decide to unlock it.

This is 1,000,000% true! Prove me wrong. I suppose… If you try to prove me wrong. You would then adopt a new talent and we both win.

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Relationships, Mysteries for all.

It is always such a tricky and challenging experience being in a relationship, let alone being in a long distance relationship. Relationships in their nascent form are designed to be challenging but rewarding at the same time. 

How then do we lead a happy relationship? Challenges in each individual relationship vary depending on the people involved. It may range from physical needs differences to mental stability and anywhere in between. By physical needs, it just need not go down the wire to the sexual needs of each individual person involved but just as simple as when and how much physical contact is needed which can be holding hands, cuddling, hugs to just touching the face. 

The causes for these differences are underwhelming to say the least but have a lasting impact because they go to the root of being and how we perceive the world. I also feel it boils down to the upbringing and the values that are instilled by the people who gives us birth and the society we are surrounded with. A relationship between two european teens is very different to a relationship between mature 40 year olds in the middle east. The differences in an european teen’s relationship may just amount to what is perceived to be ‘cool’ or where they want to live/ build a career. The differences in a relationship between mature 40 years old in the middle east can be caused due to the sense of freedom or what is perceived as ‘culturally relevant’. Yes I have used stereotypes in the above examples but if you look closely enough in any relationship, we tend to see patterns in all relationships. 

To define these patterns, I believe three fundamental differences in people cause the differences.

1. What they thought they want vs What they actually want

2. What they thought they got vs What they actually got

3. How they perceive themselves vs How they actually are

Now when we look closely, the three paradoxical questions above are caused due to a lack of 3 basic human knowledge pools.

a. Self awareness

b. Awareness of the partner

c. Change.

I am attempting to shed some light on this issue of handling change in a relationship as I believe this is the most critical aspect of any relationship. We all know and have heard the phrase “Change is permanent”. It is hence naive for us not to take this into consideration when we choose a partner. There is change in all of us and I feel it is high time we acknowledge this as we all are people with flaws and change is nature. 

I understand that self awareness and awareness of the partner mentioned above are not something we each can control as each individual person has their own way of reaching to an understanding on the above. This is influenced by the exposure you have to both yourself and your partner. However, change, both in you and your partner is something that we all can make an educated guess on and predict. We all go through the phase of ‘ This is how I want to be’ or ‘ Oh I wish I was like this person’ or ‘ Oh I wish I had a relationship that was this way’. By this we essentially are opening ourselves to change and acknowledging that we will change. The change in us is defined by people who are around, our partner, or even friends. 

By communicating this change and making an educated guess about our partner, we are not preparing ourselves for them, but also preparing them for us. We deep down, do know, that somewhere, people around us are going to influence on how we are going to be. By identifying this, we are preparing ourselves for the future to come.

So in five years, when we set goals on personal growth or professional growth, we can now identify on how our path is going to be and we can then work together with our partner in achieving these. By this, we embrace a ‘partnered change’. This I feel is the crux and is not acknowledged often which leads to the issues mentioned above (1, 2 & 3).

Being open to this, not only liberates us but improves our mental stability in the relationship, but also improves on our self awareness and awareness of our partner leading to a more collaborative relationship. 

In my life, I reflect on the simpler days. When books would take you beyond the universe on a perilous adventure only to end back in reality. When music or movies had to be re-wound to be enjoyed once again. When double cassette duplication was popular and making a mix tape to profess your feelings was a greater extension of how you felt then any text or email could convey today. Each song a monument of chemistry and profound love. Lips like sugar. . . .  sugar Kisses!!! - I digress....

In my life, I reflect on the sweeter moments like the climbing of a tree, that safe castle in the sky. Ahh! The laughter of Mom and Dad, with their playful spirit at the tail end of their young adult lives; all was right. The days when you actually had to knock and ask your friends parents, if so and so could come out and play. Building that jump was a hard day's work. You remember that jump! It's the one your friend broke his arm on.  

In my life, I reflect on my adolescence - Way out of touch with the outside world coveted and sheltered by the impurities of my surroundings. A grip too tight stunting my development into adulthood. Despite my insatiable thirst for knowledge, I realize now through self-diagnosis that I am comfortable at age 41. I can accept and play the role of more adult responsibilities, but a deep anxiety shadows my performance. I turn it on when needed and I have become quite the actor.

I reflect on Dad, you were taken from us, and I am broken as a result. I believed in you, in your dreams, in your excitement, and I loved your passion. I loathed your stubbornness and the uneasiness you could add to a room when you lost yourself. In retrospect, I understand this part of you. Perhaps an undiagnosed sickness. 

I carry your heart, and I knew it's purity and your ability at forgiveness. And so... I forgive you and absolve you of any and all pain at your hand. In 2005 you visited my dreams and gifted me the release of pain I carried over your loss. I bared the torch as long as I could for Mom and the boys; as you referred to the three of us so lovingly. Perhaps a greater sadness is Mom chose to die with you, and it hurts to watch her just exist without passion for anything. It's been 12 agonizing years.

I write for my own sanity. It's all I can do to release my emotional afflictions. The love I have for others is all that has stopped me from ending it all. Too much pain, and with each trial, I slip further away from feeling happiness myself.

In my life, I reflect on how fortunate I am at having stared death in the face tortured but spared. I’m left with the permanent and deep scars. My curse is my nurturing personality, as it attracts the lost and desperate souls looking for wisdom. I accept that if he exists, that I am Gods whipping boy, spared as a witness to remember and love all those that others have forgotten. If paying the price for a previous life is my sentence, then I can confirm that time travel is impossible. As my dimensional accomplice would have altered his own outcome freeing me from this sentence. The biggest crux is as my mind is sharpening, my tortured body fails me.  

In my life, I reflect on Business and as a creative soul with an encompassing vision. It's difficult to find work that fills my life.